I Actually Don’t Need to Hear About Your Trans Allyship!
Your friends are on your side and they can’t wait to tell you about it! Also, we help a trans reader who’s nervous about international travel.
My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am
Is it ever ok to comment on another person’s body? Also, we help a reader with a loud late-night roommate.
There’s Nothing Wrong With Being a Third Wheel
You can blame it on avoidant attachment or being a Sagittarius, but exclusion can be incredible.
Love Is the Last Rainbow Cookie
Whenever my best friend comes to visit, she brings me a container of rainbow cookies.
‘Is It Okay if I Stay in Love With My Best Friend?’
“We’re not going to get together for a lot of reasons — I don’t really have time for a new partner, they’re monogamous and I am not, and they’re just not into me in the same way that I’m into them.”
My Girlfriend and I Did a Boudoir Shoot With Our Gay Bestie and It Was Great for Self-Esteem
There was also something to be said for the beauty of women bonding platonically over sexuality.
The Ultimate Guide to Having a Lesbian Crush on Your Friend
Find answers to questions like “should I tell her?” and “what do I do if she’s unavailable?”
‘My Gay Guy Friend Is Rude and Blames It on Gay vs. Lesbian Culture’
“I’ve started hanging out with him less because he’s just annoying at times.”
‘I Resent My Best Friend for Moving Away and Having Kids’
“A few years back, my best friend got married, moved to the suburbs, and had kids.”
Do I Have To Tell My Friend I Have a Crush On Her?
“She’s basically my dream girl. We’ve hit it off fast over the past few months, and she’s one of my closest friends here at this point, and I am so incredibly calm around her.”
How Do I Re-Friend-Zone My Friend After the Worst Sex of My Life?
Advice on how to stay friends when the friend you hooked up with wants more, flagging with carabiners, and whether it’s okay if your wife is your only IRL friend.
Help! My Friends Won’t Shut Up
Plus advice about leaving a controlling partner and getting second dates.
I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club
I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s been in operation since the 1970’s.
You Need Help: I’m Too ‘Old’ for This New Generation of Queers
I’m so sorry the people you’re around have made you feel unwelcome because you don’t follow their narrow definition of what being a queer woman looks like.
You Need Help: My Girlfriend Struggles With Social Skills
Just because someone operates differently from you doesn’t mean they’re wrong, bad, or need help.
Rules for Being the Gay in the Wedding Party
I’ve been that one single, queer friend in the bridal party countless times.
You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
You Need Help: I Miss the Social Intimacy of Church
How can I build meaningful and lasting friendships?
You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
You Need Help: Your Friend Takes Everything Super Personally
What I hear from the anecdotes you shared is someone who is deeply lonely and feels deeply unseen, but you can’t be your friend’s therapist, even if you want what’s best for her.