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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community
In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.
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10 Things I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Going to Play Parties
A play party is just like any other party — if it’s a good party, it’s probably a loud party, and if it’s a great party, it ends in an orgasm.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Impact Play 101: How to Successfully Spank and Slap With Your Very Own Hands
Your hands are your first and best sex toy, and one thing you can do with them is spank people! Hot. Let’s talk about how you can do that in a safe and sexy way!
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How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
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How to Soundproof for Kinky Sex
If you want to make your sex or kink life a little quieter and a little more soundproof, here’s what you can try on your own.
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View From The Top: Where I’ve Been
Before any of my other sexuality identities, I was kinky.
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View From The Top: Topping While Butch
It took me years to settle into the idea that masculinity and topping were actually, authentically my identities.
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View From the Top: Dominant Fantasy vs. Dominant Reality
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
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Bottoms Up: Used
“When I’m being used for sex, I feel like a vessel through which pleasure flows, hot and bursting.”
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Bottoms Up: Bottoming and Butt Sex
I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.
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View From The Top: I Started As A Bottom
Started as a bottom, now I’m here.
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Bottoms Up: Greedy
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
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Bottoms Up: Why I’m A Bratty Bossy Bitch
Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.
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View From The Top: Power In Theory, Power In Practice
Sarah and I talked a lot about power in our relationship — who had it, who felt it, how it flowed between us. It wasn’t always smooth.
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View From The Top: Dividing Acts and Power
“What if the person who is strapped-on is tied to a bed, blindfolded and ridden, not allowed to come? Who is really in charge then?”
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View From The Top: How I Went From Top To Dominant
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.
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View From The Top: Don’t Come Until I Say You Can
Tease and denial is a classic flirtation. Orgasm control is just one step further.