Results for: be the change
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Change Is Magic: On Cooking and Bodies
Science fiction taught me that any sufficiently advanced science is indistinguishable from magic. In the kitchen, my girlfriend is a witch.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?
“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that — but you might consider the possibility that there are more opportunities to do so than you think.”
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Immigration Reform is a Queer & Trans* Human Rights Issue
“The only way that we as queer and trans* activists can fight against homophobia and transphobia as it impacts the most vulnerable members of our community is through working in coalition with other social justice groups to fundamentally change and dismantle these unjust systems.”
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100 Things to Try When I Have a Vagina
Of all the unexpected changes I encountered during my transition, the most surreal had to be transforming a part of my body.
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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
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What Can a Nonbinary Transition Look Like?
People often understand being non-binary as a mix of feminine and masculine characteristics. That’s a start, but it doesn’t do justice to non-binary diversity.
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You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept
“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”
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Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey
Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!
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Here’s to Another Year of Legally Being a Man
This year marks my fourth year of being a feminine catastrophe. Except my paperwork still claims that I’m some f*cking guy.
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4 Moments During My Transition When Womanhood ‘Clicked’ for Me
1. When targeted ads began spooning wedding crap onto my feed.
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How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Misgendering as a Nonbinary Femme?
Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by any other person on this earth. And if your friends can’t respect you? They’re not your people.
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You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?
You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
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The Evolution of Unclockable Transgender Tuck Kits
Looking back, I wish a company like Unclockable existed when I was starting my transfeminine journey through gender.
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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
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Trans Love in Pandemic Times
Love without a blueprint leaves room for unknown possibilities. I spoke to seven trans people about how the pandemic has changed their relationships and how trans love has changed their lives.
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You Need Help: Everyone Thinks I’m Lying To Myself About My Gender
“If you were to ask me my gender, I’d say ‘lesbian.’ The problem is people in my life will not stop asking me if I’m nonbinary or trans. Everyone keeps asking if I have new pronouns.”
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I Wish I’d Medically Transitioned Before Giving Birth
Less than a year after giving birth, I decided to medically transition. I wish I’d done it sooner.
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Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
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What Trans Visibility Could Mean for Trans People, and Everyone Else
Visibility can be a trap in many ways because we never got to set the terms by which we are viewed.