Results for: meet up
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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
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You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?
It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?
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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?
I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to have so many areas in your life where coming out simply isn’t an option.
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Feel Comfortable in My Own Skin?
Your story begins with letting go of the way your body looked before. Your body does not exist primarily to be seen. Here are some thoughts and some practical resources about how to move forward and learn to be comfortable in your own skin.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?
“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that — but you might consider the possibility that there are more opportunities to do so than you think.”
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You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
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You Need Help: Gender Feels in Quarantine
Your rawness and tenderness is a primal signal that you are alive. It’s exhausting and there’s no way to turn it off. Let yourself breathe through this, and trust that it is not a waste of time to devote your energy to the work of becoming.
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You Need Help: What Should You Do With Your One Wild and Precious Life?
Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.
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You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
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You Need Help Helping Your Parents: Cis People Teaching Cis Parents To Be Trans Allies
It will take time. It will take a lot of patience. It will be worth it.
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You Need Help: What’s My Label?
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”
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You Need Help: I Came Out To My Mom (Again) And You Can, Too
“I cried on the plane. I realized, stark as night, clear as day, that the silence was killing me. Instead of moving through a moment, I was trapped inside of purgatory.”
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You Need to Help These Ten People Come Out
Girls are always asking me for advice on various coming out situations, and I don’t always know how to answer them. Perhaps you, dear reader, would like to take a swing at it?
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You Need Help: It’s A Hard Knock Life For Bisexuals
What happens when people are weirded out that your girlfriend is bisexual? Or you’re a bisexual girlfriend navigating an open relationship? OBVIOUSLY YOU ASK THE INTERNET.