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Your Girlfriend’s Family Is Racist and You Should Probably Get the Hell Out of There
“How much do I need to engage with my serious girlfriend’s racist immediate family members? She is close with them, and I’ve spent time with them in the past, but put simply I no longer have the energy or inclination to do so, even though I love my gf.”
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How to Talk to Your White Friends and Family About Racism
As annoying as it is, probably, to hear it, you really have to lead with love. It’s not our responsibility to love people who hate us or wish us ill, but if those people are your friends or family, it is yours. If you genuinely care about your family and want them to be and do better, let that ground your conversation.
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One American Goes to See “30 Americans”
“And I thought how interesting is it that America can be this dark star, death star, and also at the same time this incredible shining light.”
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Four Black Queer Writers in Conversation About Jussie Smollett and Holding Up Space for Each Other
This piece was co-written by Natalie, Reneice, Alexis, and Carmen. We’re four of the black members of The Speakeasy, Autostraddle’s collective for its writers of color.
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Here’s How Queer and Trans People of Color Are Resisting Gentrification and Displacement
Lots of people are talking about gentrification, but who’s actually doing something about it? Queer and trans people of color, of course. In Oakland and Seattle, QTPOC are creating visionary solutions to combat gentrification and reclaim land for communities of color.
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“Radical Dharma: Talking Race, Love and Liberation” Is The Book For Right Now
Is there enough room to practice compassion at the same time that we notice we’re being manipulated and dehumanized? How much of our own humanity is taken away from us when we don’t allow ourselves the emotional space to practice love in any circumstance?
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We Cry With Charleston: How I’m Healing as a Black Queer Christian
“Now more than ever, I think it’s important to say alabanza to those who were slain, to lift their names up in prayer and to remind those of us still living that Black lives do matter — they’ve always mattered and will always matter.”
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No White Tears: A Non-Guide on Dealing with Microaggressions from Your White Partner
This is not a how-to guide; there’s no right way to navigate these situations. Let’s share instances of microaggressions and some ways to deal in the hopes we’ll all be able to make it out alive, looking sexy and loving our hardest.
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No, Communities of Color Are Not More Homophobic or Transphobic than White Ones
So your white gf used a grossly inaccurate stereotype about your entire ethnicity/race to make a point? COOL. Let’s talk about it.
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Adventures in Baby Making as a Single Black Lesbian
So maybe my pregnancy path isn’t as simple and straightforward as baby books would have you believe it should be because I’m a poor QPoC with anxiety, but it has been an interesting worthwhile journey so far. I can’t wait until I can take the next step.
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White Gay Dudes, Straight Black People: With Friends Like These, Who Needs A Voice?
“The need for hate crime legislation for the state that covers gender identity/expression and sexuality is, of course, paramount, but it strikes me as odd that in a case in which more factors than just sexuality or gender expression were present, that only that was touched upon, both in the coverage by major news sources and what the “hate” would be constituted as.”
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The QPOC Speakeasy Speaking Out With Love To Mike Brown
“It is a crystal clear, paint-by-the-numbers picture of chronic police hostility toward African-Americans. This is anti-blackness in America. Make no mistake.”
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The Ersatz Emancipation of Femininity: On Being a Bulimic, Brown Lesbian
“When I was thirteen years old I began starving myself. I did so, in short, because I wanted so desperately to be thin. And by thin, I mainly meant white.”
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Top 10 Instances of Open and Unapologetic Celebrity Cultural Appropriation in 2013!
“Oh, wait, so you’re not dressing in a mass-produced stereotypical ‘Native’ costume, and instead were just dressing as one of the most racist caricatures depicting an Indigenous person in the history of American cinema?”
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That’s Not Who I Am: Calling Out and Challenging Stereotypes of Asian Americans
Asian stereotypes are everywhere. Let’s talk about them, yell about them and do something about them.
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Asian Evasion: How “Model Minority” College Applicants Bypass Racial Discrimination
Why labeling yourself as “Asian” on your applications might give you an unfair disadvantage when it comes to college admissions.
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Race, Sexuality & Feminism: Autostraddle Feminist Roundtable Part 2
In which we ask: How does your race and/or sexuality impact your feminist identity? Do you ever feel you have to “pick one”?