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You Need Help: I Want To Ask My Couple Friends Out but Don’t Know if They’re Poly
“I have a crush on a lesbian couple I know, and I want to test the waters to see if they might be interested in dating, but I don’t want to make it weird if they’re monogamous.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Being Monogam-ish With My Bi Girlfriend?
“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”
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You Need Help: Seeking Poly People and (Relationship) Anarchy in Small Town, U.S.A.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
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#PolyamoryProblems: How to Approach Safer Sex with Multiple Partners
Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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You Need Help: Your Potential Throuple Turned Into a Couple and Someone’s Feeling Left Behind
“If y’all are close friends, you might want to make this sacrifice/compromise to preserve the friendship. Generally speaking, friends are more important than lovers, depending on how close of a friend they are.”
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Did My Partner Trick Me Into a Lifetime of Sexless Monogamy?
In today’s A+ advice box: is a miscommunication over polyamory really the issue here or is your relationship simply broken and toxic? Plus; advice about feeling insecure when texting a partner and getting into being handy!
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Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians
She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.
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I Confronted My Girlfriend About Cheating On Me, She Responded By Coming Out as Poly
Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?
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The Polyamory Workbook Offers Practical Tips for Navigating Any Relationship
I wish I could send pieces of this book to all of the people I have ever loved.
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Peacock’s New Polyamorous Reality Show “Couple to Throuple” Forgets That Thirds Are People Too
Couple to Throuple wants the couples to find their forever third. But the couples are still trying to decide what they want for themselves.
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I’ve Been Non-Monogamous for Eight Years — These Are My Mistakes and Lessons for Happier Loving
My experience of love has been marked by learning, mistakes, and lost relationships.
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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club
I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s been in operation since the 1970’s.
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The Polyamorous Devils of “Couple to Throuple” Are Ready to Blow Up Gender Norms
Peacock’s polyamorous dating show Couple to Throuple got two things right: Ash and Maximo.
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Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
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#PolyamoryProblems: Advice for Newbies with Too Many Feelings
For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your partner’s word instead of advocating for your needs. Find out why you should never stand for someone telling you that having feelings means you’re not really polyamorous.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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#PolyamoryProblems: How To Deal With Jealousy
This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards exploration and growth.