“At 27, I came out as Korean-American. I was always Korean, of course. I checked the “Asian” box when filling out a form. My ethnicity was written on my face in the shape of my eyes and my small flat nose. But until a few years ago, it wasn’t an identity I felt connected to. There were many identities that came first — poet, bisexual, queer, feminist, activist, organizer, fattie, vegan. Being Korean was a fact, but not an identity.”

On the journey from there to here.

Someone thinks Margaret Cho outed John Travolta, Fastrack thinks kids should come out, Ángeles Álvarez thinks lesbian politicians should come out, and now that Jason Collins is out, Andy West thinks everyone should come out.

“It wasn’t until I kissed the second girl that even my therapist at the time laughed at me and told me maybe it was time to accept that my sexuality was not as cut-and-dry as I’d always imagined.”

Ricky Martin came out yesterday. Sean Hayes came out a few weeks ago. My Mom came out in 1995. Is it only a matter of time before everyone comes out? Riese investigates and Alex makes infographics and together we get to the bottom of this well of homosexiness.

Riese tells one of many versions of her story, Laneia tells the whole truth and nothing but the truth. The latter is the most important thing we’ve ever published on Autostraddle.