Results for: meet up
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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community
In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.
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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker
“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”
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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club
I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s been in operation since the 1970’s.
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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Topping From the Bunker: Tips for Long-Distance Kink
Good news: there are no geographic limits to being a kinky slut, and I’m willing to lend you my perverted imagination.
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Frisky Business: Talking with Independent Queer Harness Designer Emma Alamo
The babe behind the buckles is Emma Alamo — a queer creator, a recovering alcoholic, a proud power bottom and business owner with serious hustle. Emma welcomed me into her studio and talked about social media, body image and building a career selling bondage gear.
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How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
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Cuffing Season: Five Tips for Anxious Dominants
Worried you can’t be a good Dominant because you’re too anxious or awkward? Don’t be.
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Impact Play 101: How to Successfully Spank and Slap With Your Very Own Hands
Your hands are your first and best sex toy, and one thing you can do with them is spank people! Hot. Let’s talk about how you can do that in a safe and sexy way!
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Shibari 101: Hogtie
Here’s how to put a few basic shibari ties together so you can hogtie your rope bottom!
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I’m a Submissive Brat and No, That’s Not a Contradiction
In my day-to-day life my brattiness shows up as snark and a tendency to play devil’s advocate. It wasn’t until I entered the BDSM scene five years ago that I learned to express it in new and unexpected ways.
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I Went to Skirt Club, a Lesbian Sex Party for Straight Women
What does it mean to be queer and a sex worker at Skirt Club?
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Bottoms Up: You Are Not My Dom
Somehow, self-identifying as a submissive makes some potential doms think I am their sub.
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Bottoms Up: Kinky Resolutions
As I grow more into the submissive I want to be, I grow to love myself more.
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View From The Top: Desire That Looks Like Mine
The possibility of finding our kink community gave me the courage to take another deep breath and open the door.
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View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
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View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
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View From The Top: It’s Like 10,000 Femme Tops When All You Need Is A Bottom
Before you can find someone who wants what you want, you have to say no to everyone who doesn’t.