Results for: polyamory
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How Polyamory Pushed Me to Prioritize My Pelvic Health
Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Advice for Newbies with Too Many Feelings
For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your partner’s word instead of advocating for your needs. Find out why you should never stand for someone telling you that having feelings means you’re not really polyamorous.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How To Deal With Jealousy
This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards exploration and growth.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How to Deal With a Closeted Partner
Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Stop Getting Vetoed by My Dates’ Partners?
You’ve been vetoed — that truly sucks! A veto is where each person in a relationship has the power to end the other person’s relationships — “I vote against you dating this person. Break up with them now because I said so and I’m the most important, thanks!!”
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
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Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
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You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
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I Confronted My Girlfriend About Cheating On Me, She Responded By Coming Out as Poly
Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
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You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
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How to Navigate Polyamory as a Non-Primary Partner
Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.
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You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?
How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?
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Six Queers on Polyamory and Identity
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Being Monogam-ish With My Bi Girlfriend?
“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”
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The Elusive Three-Way Relationship: How to Avoid F*cking It Up
A how-to guide to your first polyamorous adventure, from someone who made all the mistakes so you don’t have to.