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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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You Need Help: Getting Kinky On A Budget
You’re in luck — kinky sex requires nothing but two (or more) bodies and a little imagination.
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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community
In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.
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You Need Help: What To Wear To A Kink Party
What to wear when you don’t want to channel Leather Mommi Barbie.
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We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy
After months of holding ourselves back in order to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID, we were chasing abundance.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish
I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly made sense to me.
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Topping From the Bunker: Tips for Long-Distance Kink
Good news: there are no geographic limits to being a kinky slut, and I’m willing to lend you my perverted imagination.
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10 Things I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Going to Play Parties
A play party is just like any other party — if it’s a good party, it’s probably a loud party, and if it’s a great party, it ends in an orgasm.
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How to Host the Queer Play Party of Your (Sex) Dreams
Hosting your very own play party can feel like a lot, but with this guide you and your guests all set for a fun, chill and sexy time.
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How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
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Impact Play 101: How to Successfully Spank and Slap With Your Very Own Hands
Your hands are your first and best sex toy, and one thing you can do with them is spank people! Hot. Let’s talk about how you can do that in a safe and sexy way!
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Queer Women and Leather: A Culture Clash That Has Nothing to Do With Veganism
An understanding of the leather community can help us co-exist, share spaces and celebrate all of the different ways to live queer lives.
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You Need Help: You’re Vanilla And Your Partner Is Kinky
How to explore kinky sex with a kinky partner when you have no experience whatsoever.
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How to Soundproof for Kinky Sex
If you want to make your sex or kink life a little quieter and a little more soundproof, here’s what you can try on your own.
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Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage
Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.
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You Need Help: Two Bottoms, One Relationship
The thing about being a top or a bottom is that it’s all in your head.
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View From The Top: The Thing About Sadism
I want to break things — holes, walls, people. I want to feel the begging in my pelvis and let it ignite the fire under me to burn bright up my spine and light up all my colors.
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Bottoms Up: About Last Night
“I guess I had a lot of opinions that night because you told me that I was especially chatty. I told you it was because you weren’t giving me anything to keep my mouth busy.”