Amber Heard is Gay: Everything You Need to Know About the Openly Lesbian Actress

Amber was born in 1986 and grew up in Austin, Texas, where she attended private Catholic schools all her life. Amber says she always found “a way to rebel.” Amber speaks Spanish fluently. She isn’t a big party girl and has kept her private life very private since she first entered the limelight.

Probably the most important piece of info to you dorks will be this list of “Things That Make Amber’s Home a Home,” (via her Scene & Heard interview earlier this year):


1. My kitchen is not complete without Emeril’s copper-lined pots and pans — the best.
2. Fresh flowers — I never have an empty vase in my house. Roses are my favorite.
3. Scents — Aquiesse candles and Voluspa incense reminds me of the importance of scent.
4. My parents’ first record player — it’s my treasure — and a collection of the best vintage vinyl that nine years of flea market and thrift store shopping has to offer.
5. The most practical item in my home (and therefore the most valued) — my Cuisinart Coffeemaker and Coffee-Mate Hazelnut Creamer.
6. Cookbooks by Padma Lakshmi, Jamie Oliver, Mario Batali, Maria Khalife
7. Mrs. Meyer’s Clean Day Geranium Cleaning and Laundry products.
8. My travel journals (where I keep all my travel plans and notes) is always a black leather Moleskine notebook.

Her first gig was a brief spot in the pilot for Jack & Bobby but her breakout role was playing Maria in Friday Night Lights in 2004 — the film inspired the TV series by the same name.

Amber in Friday Night Lights


In 2005’s SideFX, Amber kissed a girl, but according to the Lesbian Scene Guru from ELMS, “This is just a mild scene compared to the other scenes in this movie. Heard starts to kiss Phillips on the forehead in one of those consoling kind of ways. That of course leads to a kiss, but since it is shot at a weird angle, you don’t quite get to see it.”


Here’s Amber’s guest spot on Criminal Minds (2006):


Interview/clips from All the Boys Love Mandy Lane (2006)


Amber played Greta on the 2007 CW series, Hidden Palms:


As Maja in Never Back Down (2008):


Now here’s a movie I would’ve seen if I knew it existed: The Joneses, in which Amber Heard co-stars with Demi Moore and David Duchovny, from 2009:


A 2009 Interview with Current:

Amber’s Big Gay Life:

Who is Heard’s girlfriend (since 2008), Tasya van Ree? She’s an artist, photographer and filmmaker based in LA. Tasya van Ree took these photos of Kate Moennig:

Recently Tasya founded the I Equals You project to promote equal rights for homos. Furthemore Tasya enjoys making short black-and-white films set to music, usually starring Amber Heard. You can see these on Tasya’s YouTube page, and right now you can watch this one, titled “Amber Heard for Equality”:

Hey-o! Look Tasya recently made a video starring The Real L Word‘s Tracy Ryerson:

So there you go. Now Portia De Rossi will have some serious competition on those men’s magazine polls about which lesbian its readers would like to bang.

Oh and writing this article, I finally figured out where I know Amber Heard from. She was on the cover of MISSBEHAVE, my favorite magazine which has since folded:

And a photograph from MISSBEHAVE has since been used on this site as an Autostraddler of the Day, back when we used to do that:

I bet you feel really really smart now. Here’s another photo, from May 2010:

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    I knew there was a reason I couldn’t stop checking her out in Never Back Down… and Pineapple Express…and Zombieland…and Remember the Daze.

  2. I was a woman possessed. I spent about 80% of my time talking about Amber Heard, and the other 20% of the time, I was praying for someone else to bring her up so I could talk about her more. I could hear people getting bored with me, but I couldn’t stop. It just kept coming up like word vomit.

    • O, I know her now!!! Her best friend was in love/obsessed with her.. O that episode has all sorts of new meaning, but I’m gona go watch it now to see if thers any sexual tension between her n paget brewster.. real or imagined in my head…even tho I’m totes a jj/emily nerd Lol

      also hi5’s all round for everyone that’s used mean girl references ! I swear, sometimes y’all are soo gay I’m surprised u cn function!

  3. /melts

    anyways, is she actually lesbian as opposed to bisexual for sure? i was looking this up like 3 days ago and it seems like she was all “i wouldnt date based on gender” so wouldnt that qualify as bisexual…?

    not that i have anything against that, i just dont like when its automatically assumed theyre lesbian vs bisexual when they have a girlfriend (but havent specifically stated their flat out gay a la portia)

    • like most things, i became obsessive about it and would take 2 hrs to find the perfect autostraddler of the day, and then we had a redesign, and then alex made another redesign in may and we are still waiting for that to get coded, but maybe when that happens, there will be a space for it, for the autostraddler of the day.

      no but what really happened was we ran out.

      • it’s cool, I don’t want you to feel like you’re being pressured into bring it back or anything, I was just feeling nostalgic, as awesome as the site is now I still think fondly of that original design.

  4. This post pretty much wins at life. Gotta go back to read it again and play. all. the. clips.

    On a more serious note, Miss Heard is glamorous, seems to have her shit together, and has a resume that i suppose most Hollywood wannabe stars and/or foolios her age could only dream of or be ready to sell their soul for. I hope this is truly only the beginning for her. And us / the world – in terms of having out & proud Hollywood actors one can look to as a positive influence, eye candy, and perhaps just as an example/lesson in kickass-itude for girls in showbiz. Well done, Heard. Well-done, AS Team. As per usual.

    I have faith she’ll stay awesome and classy. Here’s hoping she keeps getting lots of work in quality projects big or small as well. (Heck, she’d probably be a great SuperWoman from what i can tell. There’s never been a better time to wake up and grow some balls, Hollywood. [/digression])

  5. mixed feelings. on the one hand, OMG SHE’S REALLY HOT! AND GAY!

    on the other hand, it seems like she’s really only famous for being hot. The only roles she’s had as an “actress” are all in stupid boy comedies where the only requirements for female characters are that they have a smokin’ bod and be scantily clad as much as possible.

    I hate it when people get a lot of attention just for being attractive. And I hate it even more when people try to cover up the fact that an actress is getting attention for being hot by saying “she’s also really smart and cool!” I’m sure that’s true, but you know that’s not the reason she’s on everyone’s radar right now.

  6. I have so much respect for amber heard right now. she isn’t even as famous as ellen page or kristen stewart yet (and gets cast for very different roles than theirs) but is already out, open about it and political.
    you go, girl!

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