The Summer Meet-up Of Your Queer Dreams: Celebrate Pride with Autostraddle!

Are you really into glitter? Do you find yourself throwing batons in your sleep? Do you enjoy a combination of alcohol, sunlight, mardi gras beads, and potentially crowds so large you might suffocate? Have you ever dreamt of going to your city’s local LGBT pride events with a full posse of amazing-looking, kindhearted queers ready at any point to have more fun than you’ve ever had before?

If you answered “yes” or even sheepishly muttered “maybe” to yourself in the last few minutes you spent sorting out your emotions during that series of sentences, I’ve got good news for you! This June, Autostraddle is on a mission to make your pride month the Best Pride Ever, complete with the posse of queers and — let’s be honest — probably doubly so on the glitter. And we’re doing it by offering you wild and beautiful souls the chance to meet and greet in real life all month long. That’s right. June hath now been declared Autostraddle Pride Month, and y’all will be celebrating together until the very last parade has left a trail of frisbees and flyers in your neighborhood.


However, in order to satiate this amazing dream of yours, you need to be the meetup you wish to see in the world. In other words, we need you — yes, you crazy and quixotic reader /commenter / vague passerby  — to volunteer to make it happen! And soon! If you’d like to host an Autostraddle Pride Meetup, we need to know by Sunday, June 8. The good news is, it’s as easy as 1-2-3! (I make no promises about ABC.)

Here’s your game plan, brave meet-up minx: First, you choose the time and place for your meetup, which can be during, before, after, or completely unrelated to the Official Pride Happenings in your current geographic region. Then, you go ahead and decide on or create an RSVP mechanism — be it an email, an Eventbrite, a Facebook event, or a day-of flagging system based on everyone wearing a You Do You shirt in public — and fully commit to it. Lastly, email the following information to carmen at autostraddle dot com and chelsey at autostraddle dot com, who will add it to our soon-to-come megapost chock full of Autostraddle Meet-Up goodness.

Host Name
Special Instructions
Facebook Event URL [be sure to make your event public!]

Hosting a meet-up is super fun and can be as easy or complex as you’d like — you could host a clothing swap, rent a hall and throw a dance party, or just invite people over to watch Spice World and eat rainbow ice cream. Follow your heart. Trust me: if you plan it, they will come.

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Carmen spent six years at Autostraddle, ultimately serving as Straddleverse Director, Feminism Editor and Social Media Co-Director. She is now the Consulting Digital Editor at Ms. and writes regularly for DAME, the Women’s Media Center, the National Women’s History Museum and other prominent feminist platforms; her work has also been published in print and online by outlets like BuzzFeed, Bitch, Bust, CityLab, ElixHER, Feministing, Feminist Formations, GirlBoss, GrokNation, MEL, Mic and SIGNS, and she is a co-founder of Argot Magazine. You can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr or in the drive-thru line at the nearest In-N-Out.

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  1. If there are enough boston queers here that wish to meet up the friday before boston pride at diesel that would be awesome. I have 6 queers that will be staying in my condo so I already have a posse to start with.

    • I’d definitely be interested! Would also be interested in the Boston Breakers idea downthread if it’s not too pricey. I’m not a “sports queer” but I do like watching soccer, male or female. : D

      (Hey, we could do a meet-up around the World Cup, too, maybe?)

      • The cheapest Breakers single game tickets are $15, although they will do group pricing for 20+ groups. (I’m not their ticket sales person I swear.) Could be as simple as a tailgate + game. Unfortunately they only have 2 home games in June, the 11th and 19th, and neither is a weekend game. Maybe the 19th? It’s a Thursday, at 7PM.

        Also World Cup watching is a swell idea. I’d meet up for that in a heartbeat.

    • I submitted a meet up for straddlers to meet up pre dyke march at diesel in Cambridge. Dyke march is at 6pm friday the 13th. So I was thinking 2:30-3ish meet up would work. The cafe is in davis square off the davis redline stop. My A-camping roomie Ashley berube will be there along with some other assorted queers.

  2. Well it’s a bit late for some of in SoCal, as Long Beach was the other week and L.A. is this week. At least there is hope for a San Diego, or even Inland Empire Straddler meet up for their pride events?

  3. Carmen! I’M SO GLAD THIS IS HAPPENING! (If you had a hand in this plan for more i.r.l. meetups, or whoever had a hand in this: thank you!) I’m still working on a piece full of feelings re: city meetups which I’ll send you asap :)


      • Oh don’t even worry, Cincy Straddlers just happen to be having an OITNB marathon and also a birthday roller derby party this weekend, camping next weekend, and visiting Colombus Pride the following… not to mention we are having an intense intellectual/ feelings-filled discussion via facebook group at the moment, so there’s that. We have so much community and pride and swag we kind of can’t handle ourselves. Anyway I’ll be sending you a facebook event for this in the next day or two.

        And I love you forever and ever right back <3

  4. Could we maybe start planning these meetups a week or two earlier next year? SLC’s is this actual weekend, ie over by the time the deadline rolls through, and apparently we aren’t the only ones. I think this happened with Pride stuff last year – by the time AS started talking about it, a bunch were imminent-to-finished.

        • I imagine there must be people in Orlando, and it seems relatively central – perhaps we could make something happen there?

          I’m not experienced at organizing this things but because I”m a giant cheeseball my first thought was renting out a bowling alley for glo-bowl or something :P Mostly because it’s all-ages usually, fairly cheap, and allows both socializing and being socially awkward and quiet if that’s how you do !

    • I would totally agree to cosmic bowling! I hate bowling, but will attend if the reason is good enough.

      But I like Orlando, it is very central and I know a good few people there actually. Used to go to UCF and I have a good few queer identified friends there. I am totally down to get something started there for a meet-up. Of course, gay days at Disney is this weekend though. It would be perfect timing, but waaaay too last minute.

    • YES! I just moved here and I have never been to a pride before! Ever since I became an adult I’ve been out of the country so YAY LET’S GO! It’s next weekend, right? The DC one is this weekend but the Greek and Italian festivals are this weekend here, and I really want to check those out, so…

      Also the Honfest is at the same time and I’ve never been to that, either, and how am I supposed to divide up my time?!

      • Count me in! Bmore pride is really chill. People will be tailgating and drinking in the parking lots before the parade. My wife and I will be there… but she will abandon me around 2pm to go to work :/

        • Yay!

          Also, I’ve only been in Baltimore for a month so I think if we’re gonna meet up, one of you is going to need to pick the place. I’m vaguely aware Baltimore has streets and places in it, so… Or I can just pick somewhere random and you can tell me that’s a ridiculous place.

          My husband might come (he’s not LGBTQ but he’s never been to a pride, either), unless we meet up and you guys wanna keep it all ladies. He’ll survive.

        • Definitely worth the trip up! Perhaps it would be better to have an AS meetup at the parade/festival (or sometime that week at least)? Or maybe one can happen in June anyway because why not?

          • Yes, why not?! I wish we had more than one Pride every year. Just one doesn’t quite seem enough. At very least we should def. do an AS meet up at the parade festivities in Sept.

        • Well, we could always have an unofficial event at the place I work at/live near Vergennes. It’s a hotel resort, but there’s a restaurant/bar that’s open to the public, and the property in general is basically open to anyone and it’s beautiful and sits on Lake Champlain. But it’s sorta out-of-the-way, so maybe a public meetup at one of the beaches or Battery Park or a bar (or all 3!) in Grrlington would be better since there’s a much greater chance of people being in that area (my work is more central to VT in general, though). I looked through all the people who commented on the city guide for Grrlington but most of them are inactive so idk how many people would come but I guess that’s not that important?

          • I think we might be the only people here in VT. So, I don’t know how many other AS people we’ll get. I hear Grrlington has a large LGBT community though, so that might be good. I’m about 40 min. drive south of where you work (I think we’re on the same page. I was lusting after a bartending job being advertised there this summer. No experience though.) I bet we could easily get people there by posting a meetup.

        • Yeah, I don’t know why I didn’t just say the name because it’s pretty much the only hotel resort in the area. So I’ll give some thought to how to organize a meetup here at Basin Harbor, if it’s possible. But I’d also totally be okay with making it up to Grrlington since I love the beaches there during the summer and it’s totally super queer and wonderful (and wouldn’t take any planning beyond setting a time for “everyone” to show up).

          Something else I hadn’t considered: There’s a bunch of upstate New York straddlers according to, well, the fact that there’s a group for it! And this is totally not THAT far from there (2.5 hours from Albany). Maybe some of them would want to see a beautiful little slice of Vermont. Also, Pride in Albany is on the 14th, so maybe I should post in there to see if anyone is organizing anything in that area. Because that is also a nice drive. And seems like a waaaaaay more realistic prospect for an AS meetup.

          • I like how you put everyone in quotation marks. :)
            I would love to go to Albany to meet up with the others but it might be a wee bit far for me. I might be able to swing it. I hope I can, that would be really cool!

  5. Hey Halifax!

    Our Pride won’t be until July, but the queer film festival OUTeast starts up next Thursday with an Ellen Page Appreciation Day. There will be a free screening of Whip It at the Oval with a roller skating party featuring our city’s roller derby team, the Anchor City Rollers!

    I’ll send in the event info :)

  6. Plans for Hamburg, Germany are under discussion in the fb group “we straddle europe”. If there’s anyone else interested, come and help choose a date!

    Also, anyone in Warsaw, Poland? I’ll be visiting for a week at the end of june!

  7. DC folks! WITT is hosting a Pride happy hour at Local 16 TOMORROW from 8pm-10pm. More info

    A bunch of us will be headed to Booty Rex at Black Cat afterwards – feel free to message me if you’re interested in joining.

    Be sure to check out the WITT booth at the Pride festival!

  8. L.A. Pride is too soon (as in, like, legitimately right now through Sunday) for me to be able to get my life together in time to host something on the actual weekend, but I’d be happy to host a belated Los Angeles meetup later on this month!

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