“And there was Susan and Rachel at the heart of it all, dancing to the band Susan had sworn would play her wedding if she ever got married. As they laughed and moved to the music and worked up such a sweat that their jackets had to come off, I saw a glimpse of the future wedding I hope for, marrying someone I love, the two of us not fitting so strictly into the feminine.”
I choose her, always, because she’s my home and my light.
The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”
“At the start of every year, I feel an itch to plan and make vision boards and examine my life and my goals. I knew one thing on my 2018 to-do list was certain and it was getting married and having a wedding.”
As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road.
Three brides who opted for suits explain how their choice of attire ensured that their wedding was the best day of their lives.
Did someone say they needed me to answer 19 questions in one post?? No, they did not, but I did it anyway!!
A wedding moment…no…experience…that you need to watch, queer Asian filmmakers telling their own stories, Rainbow Voices Mumbai, and the rebel cow who parties with bison.
“The funny thing is, it was actually super-chill ’cause even though I am very over the top, my lovely lady is like the opposite.”
Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!
The social media crackdown will backfire, monogamy whoa, get some sleep, women in Mexico City doing the damn thing, Jane Lynch, the HRC has scored your city, queer credit unions, and so much more!
This month in Costa Rica Autostraddle co-founder Alex Vega married 2013 Autostraddle Calendar Girl Mary Tully in Costa Rica and it was really cute.
Maybe love isn’t a lie after all?
“For all of our joint bank accounts and shared wardrobes, for all our talk of travel and home loans, of potential babies – she was right, it was just a piece of paper, easily crumpled and lost with no consequence.”
A bunch of stylists, caterers and bakers, event planners, and other creative types came together with one amazing mission: to build Barbie’s dream gay wedding — Kendra and all.
“My goopy brain instantly convinced me that this event would singularly make or break our relationship and that if it went poorly it would be my fault. But I swallowed my anxiety and said yes. Then I immediately started thinking about my outfit.”
So you’re gay and you’re getting married and, oh yeah, you’ve never come out to your grandmother. Do you invite her? How?
It was a great year for gay marriage, especially if you were invited to one of these fabulous, totally sweet lesbian weddings.
My favorite images are always those from the first look. They are so genuine, unfiltered and moving.
“This week has involved a lot of needing to let go of all the things I can’t have total control over and I’m not good at that and I don’t like it but also maybe that’s okay.”