You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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How to Honestly Tell When It’s Time to Break Up
Sometimes it takes an outside perspective and an objective read on what’s going on to tell whether it’s healthiest to separate — which is why our team is here to tell you from experience when it’s time to go.
What We’ve Learned About Dating & Relationships During the Pandemic
“As a broody, miserable bastard, I’ve obviously spent some time pondering past relationship failures and wondering what a functional relationship would look like for myself in the future.”
Call It Off: A Very Subjective Primer on Breaking Up with Someone You’re Casually Dating
How are you supposed to end things with somebody you’re seeing casually or have more of, idk, “a thing” with? Well, no one really has that figured out, but here are some ideas for how to break things off with the person you’re seeing casually based on the nature and length of your relationship.
Yes, Virginia, Queer Women Can Casually Date: Here’s How It Works
If casual dating is a thing you want, you can do it! I believe in you / us / our ability to not get married on the third date.
25 Questions to Make Conversation with on a First Date
A relatable icon for adult dating is Real Women Have Curves’ Ana García bringing index cards of conversation topics to her first date.
How to Go on a First Date That Doesn’t Suck
Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
Direct Communication Rules, Ghosting Sucks, Let’s All Say What We Mean
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
A Very Sensible, Queer Guide to Sending the First Message on Dating Apps
14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
How to Successfully Flirt With the Babe of Your Dreams on Instagram
Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.
How to Choose Dating App Photos That’ll Have Babes Swiping Hell Yes
You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.
You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Lex and Get Sexy With Words
“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking about longing and dread and looking for roommates?”
In Pandemic Times, I’m Having a Digital Victorian Gay Romance
COVID-19 turned our relationship long-distance. We’re getting through it with Jane Austen and love letters.
Every Opening Line I’ve Received and Sent on Tinder Since the Pandemic Began
“How are you liking all this social distancing? It’s cool that you write for Autostraddle”
Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try the XO Dating App So You Don’t Have to
Dating Download is a new ongoing series where Shelli, Dani and Drew try out the latest or most overlooked of dating apps so you don’t have to. Today they’re giving you the full download on XO.
You Need Help: Is It Okay to Date My Ex’s Friend?
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
Love After Lockdown: 7 Hot Dates to Make Things IRL with Your Pandemic Crush Post-Quarantine
You and your cyber cutie have probably gone from simple sexting to full-on virtual sex and maybe have seen each others toy or two – but what about exploring something to use together once it’s safe to meet up again? Wet for Her is low key making it hella easy to mix online shopping with your IRL play.
7 Hot Queers and Their Go-To First Date Outfits
The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both.
Is That a Secure Attachment or Are You Just Happy to See Me: All About Our Attachment Styles
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”
You Need Help: When Is it Love?
I’m not saying this word doesn’t hold meaning — I’m saying the opposite. This word holds so many meanings.