You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
Sometimes it takes an outside perspective and an objective read on what’s going on to tell whether it’s healthiest to separate — which is why our team is here to tell you from experience when it’s time to go.
“As a broody, miserable bastard, I’ve obviously spent some time pondering past relationship failures and wondering what a functional relationship would look like for myself in the future.”
How are you supposed to end things with somebody you’re seeing casually or have more of, idk, “a thing” with? Well, no one really has that figured out, but here are some ideas for how to break things off with the person you’re seeing casually based on the nature and length of your relationship.
If casual dating is a thing you want, you can do it! I believe in you / us / our ability to not get married on the third date.
A relatable icon for adult dating is Real Women Have Curves’ Ana García bringing index cards of conversation topics to her first date.
Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.
You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking about longing and dread and looking for roommates?”
COVID-19 turned our relationship long-distance. We’re getting through it with Jane Austen and love letters.
“How are you liking all this social distancing? It’s cool that you write for Autostraddle”
Dating Download is a new ongoing series where Shelli, Dani and Drew try out the latest or most overlooked of dating apps so you don’t have to. Today they’re giving you the full download on XO.
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
You and your cyber cutie have probably gone from simple sexting to full-on virtual sex and maybe have seen each others toy or two – but what about exploring something to use together once it’s safe to meet up again? Wet for Her is low key making it hella easy to mix online shopping with your IRL play.
The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both.
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”
I’m not saying this word doesn’t hold meaning — I’m saying the opposite. This word holds so many meanings.