“Supergirl” Episode 516 Recap: Up, Up, and a Gay

Previously on Supergirl, Kelly found glitches in Obsidian’s VR tech, Richard Bates got stuck in his VR and got taken away by a Leviathan woman, and the Danvers sisters got the call that Jeremiah Danvers is dead… this time, for real.

J’onn and Kara are talking about Jeremiah’s death; he was doing humanitarian acts in the Andes and he just died of a heart attack. No alien threat, no Lex conspiracy. Just natural causes after a lifetime of extreme stress. Kara is relieved to know he was truly a good man in the end, but of course is sad that her Earth Dad is gone. J’onn reassures her that Jeremiah loved his daughters, and Kara knows it, because Eliza told her so.

Kara and J’onn go to Alex’s apartment, where Kelly answers the door. Kara is so grateful Alex has Kelly in her life right now, and goes in to fetch her sister for the funeral. But Alex declares she’s not going. She starts lashing out at her sister, saying Kara doesn’t know how Alex feels, that Jeremiah has been dead for her for years, that Alex held out hope that he was a good man for years, but when he finally proved he was… he left.

Alex looks at her little sister and says that his obsession with keeping Kara safe is what ruined her own relationship with her father. Why she felt tossed aside. Kara’s voice quivers and she has to sniff to keep from crying as she asks Alex what she should tell Eliza Danvers when she asks why her oldest daughter isn’t at her own father’s funeral, but Alex says she doesn’t care.

Kara looks angry and hurt

“It gives me belly rumblings when you guys fight.”

Kara loses her patience with her sister then, in a way we only really ever see Kara lose patience with her sister or herself, and she storms off, saying she’s Kelly’s problem now.

Kelly assures Kara that Alex is just grieving and reeling and that there’s still time to convince her to get to Midvale, so J’onn and Kara take off. Kelly turns her attention to Alex, but Alex only has eyes for wine, despite it being early. Alex snaps at her girlfriend now, saying she’s already had to mourn her father over and over and over again. She is too tired to do it again. And she’s not in the mood to be psychoanalyzed by her girlfriend.

She asks Kelly to leave her alone, and Kelly agrees to give her some space, but makes sure Alex knows that she loves her, and that she will be there for her no matter what.

Alex just drinks in response.

Alex holds a glass of wine but drinks from the bottle

Actual footage of me back in the first days of social distancing.

After Kelly leaves, Alex finds one of Kelly’s VR therapy pamphlets and decides to try it for herself. She pulls out some Obsidian lenses and puts them on, and decides to go to the world where she’s Supergirl. Her outfit is black and blue and her billboard is all around National City and she’s so pumped to go punch things.

super alex does a 3 pt landing

I mean *I* always knew she was Super.

Kelly, apparently lacking a set for her own apartment, heads to work to give her grieving girlfriend space. She is looking wistfully at a picture of her and Alex when William comes in to talk to her about the Danvers girls and their loss. Apparently Kelly and William have had a few lunches together in their office building since he came to game night because they are quite chummy now, and Kelly just spills all of Alex’s business to this man. William offers to distract Kelly from her troubles by telling her about Lex’s satellites that line up with his Obsidian launch tour. Kelly doesn’t think it has anything to do with the launch directly since Obsidian doesn’t use satellites, but she’ll keep an eye out for sketchiness there.

kelly implores william

“Look, I don’t love that it’s you and me alone in these scenes either, but we gotta take what screentime we can get these days, so work with me.”

She mentions Richard and the hacker as the only sketchiness she’s really seen, and William asks if he was working with Lex; Kelly doesn’t really think so but she knows with Lex anything is possible.

Meanwhile, in Obsidian, Alex is flying around checking out the VR world. She sees a man playing guitar and chats with a woman who goes by Treasure Hunter Tilly, but whose real name is Bonnie. They talk a little about how bad the real world sucks, about Bonnie’s sister Jill who has cancer, etc. But in here it feels good, even if it’s just for a little while.

She mentions that the man at the guitar is really called Derek and is in here a little too much, in her opinion, before heading off in a chopper.

Before Alex can think too much about it, a dragon flies in and SuperAlex is called to duty.

Alex holds up scaffolding

The wigs on this show are notoriously bad but I really dig this one on Alex.

Before flying off after the dragon, SuperAlex mentions something about this being more fun than the real world, and it seems Derek has forgotten he’s in VR. And then we learn that he’s wrapped up in tinfoil in the warehouse of people-burritos the Leviathan Woman is collecting.

In the VR sim, Alex tries to channel Kara while fighting the dragon, but has a hard time getting her heat vision to work. But then SuperAlex saves the day and everyone claps. She loves the feeling of being the hero and heads off to celebrate at the local gaylien bar.

Alex smiles


Out in the real world, Kelly gets an alert on her phone that the fail safe is still glitching and she’s worried people could still be stuck in their simulations. She goes to Andrea to bring it to her attention, but Andrea promises her it just got caught up in a bureaucracy bottleneck and that it’s nothing to worry about, that it will be fixed soon. She basically gaslights Kelly into thinking she’s worrying for nothing. Kelly only looks moderately reassured.

In VR National City, Tilly finds Alex eating blueberry pancakes that remind her of her childhood. She really wishes she could share them with Kelly, and then realizes that she could probably eat them in VR. Tilly asks who Kelly is and Alex says that Kelly is her smart, kind, wonderful, supportive girlfriend… who she totally snapped at this morning.

Alex smiles while talking about kelly

Get you a girl who talks about you with as much joy as Alex talks about Kelly.

Tilly reassures her that they all have bad days, and Alex kind of word vomits all over her about her dad dying and how she loved being treated like an equal regarding the responsibility of protecting her family but in retrospect she’s realizing that being treated like an adult when you aren’t one might have felt flattering at the time, but the truth is, it’s not fair to the child in question. Sure as a kid you feel special, like maybe you’re smarter or more mature than the other kids your age when you’re asked to take care of your younger sister or protect a parent’s feelings or keep adult’s secrets, but the weight of that can crush a child’s spirit, and the toll it can take on your psyche can take years to reveal itself.

Alex thought that VR would feel like freedom, but the truth is her dad is still dead, and escaping here was fun, but it doesn’t take that pain away. She realizes that she just said all this to a relative stranger and says that she clearly has some things to work through.

alex and tilly talk

I feel like this screenshot is like if a bot read a thousand Supercorp fanfics and then tried to recreate it. So close, yet so far.

Alex apologizes for unloading and says she’s going to go back to the real world, but Tilly isn’t sure what that means. Alex, realizing something is off, calls Tilly “Bonnie” and asks about her sister Jill, but she doesn’t register any of that. She says her name is Tilly. Before Alex can wrap her head around what’s happening, she hears J’onn in her earpiece calling her back to the DEO and the bartender reassures her that he’ll take care of Tilly and SuperAlex instincts kick in, so she flies off.

In the real world, we see that Tilly’s Obsidian lenses have turned red, and she’s lying there clutching a picture of her and her sister when the Leviathan Woman comes to add her to her collection.

SuperAlex flies to the DEO, where broad strokes versions of J’onn, Brainy, and Nia await her help.

alex smiles at the DEO

A girl who can’t even get her weapon to work could get used to this.

Hank Henshaw has kidnapped Kara, who is a mere human and who is struggling against ropes tying her to a chair, so Alex goes off to save her.

SuperAlex and Hank Henshaw fight, and Hank shoots her with Kryptonite and threatens her family, saying no one will be able to save her, but she delivers a classic Supergirl style line saying, “I don’t need anyone to save me. I am Supergirl.” She breaks free of her Kryptonite bindings and takes him down. As she cuffs him, she learns that Kara is safe; she saved the day.

In the real world, Kelly goes to find Willam and tells her about how dismissive Andrea was being. Kelly has taken it upon herself to pull 500 names of people who have been using their Obsidian lenses for 48 hours or more, and wants William’s help to do wellness checks on all of them.

Kelly looks sternly at William

“If you have a contact at the NSA, now would be a good time to mention it. Not, say, 100 phone calls from now.”

At the VR DEO, SuperAlex feels good about saving the day, and J’onn tells her that Kara says it’s her turn to pick up dumplings, which also feels right… but something about all of this feels a little… off. She feels like she’s forgetting something important. But J’onn tells her everything is fine and they head off to karaoke night at the gaylien bar. Vita takes the mic from Abraham Lincoln and fries a heckler with her heat vision, and Alex’s body instinctively flinches, but when everyone just laughs, she starts to laugh too; our Alex is gone. This is her reality now. And she seems happy…

…but in the real world, her lenses are turning red.

Alex's lenses turn red but she's smiling

I don’t think this was a great week for them to air an ep about reality not feeling real and escapism becoming the new reality.

After calling 100 people, Kelly and William still haven’t found anyone stuck in their VR sim, and Alex isn’t texting Kelly back. Kelly thinks maybe Alex still needs space, and William suggests the very man thing to suggest, which is to ignore her need for space and go see her anyway. Normally I would be furious at such a suggestion, but since Kelly knows she’s on a time crunch re: getting Alex to change her mind about the service, and I know that Alex is in trouble, I’ll allow it.

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  1. “…and William suggests the very man thing to suggest, which is to ignore her need for space and go see her anyway.”
    Well, why wouldn’t he suggest that? I mean Kara told him to give her space as she didn’t want to date him, he ignored that, and was rewarded with Kara’s affections. He, and the men in the audience, would naturally assume that women don’t know what they want.

  2. Loved the episode and I especially loved all the screencaps, Valerie.

    Bravo to Chyler Leigh and her acting especially in the first 5min of this episode. Everything that she put forth in that 5min was oh so relatable for me personally because woo, yeah that was me not that long ago.

    Also, it’s really hard to watch Alex and Kara argue/be mad at one another…I don’t like it one bit.

    Also, also…more Dansen please!

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  4. Thank you for this recap. This episode was excellent!! I haven’t watched SG in a long while but absolutely unequivocally LOVE Alex Danvers so wanted to see this ep in its entirety. Well worth the time.

    In some ways this reminded me of when Jeremiah returned back in S2. I had to look up the scene, but Alex drinking wine from the bottle and Kelly commenting on it, was particularly reminiscent of a scene in 2×14. Maggie stops in to see Alex, who downs a glass of whiskey and when she goes to pour another shot Maggie took the bottle, moved Alex’s feet from the stool, talked to her about how she can tell her anything, and ended with Alex crumpled, sobbing in Maggie’s arms after Maggie asked about Jeremiah’s first day back. The parallels in the scenes, and the differences between the two girlfriends’ responses was fascinating (tho I guess in fairness to Kelly, Maggie wasn’t yelled at to go away).

    I’m glad Alex got to work thru some of her pain this ep via virtual reality and I wonder about her first comment about Kara making things look easy — do you think she has greater empathy for SG now? I also wonder about that time Kara nearly got permanently stuck in a reality where Krypton wasn’t destroyed and Alex went in to try to convince her to “come home”. I guess I bring that up because it’s interesting to see how difficult it is for both sisters to leave a reality where their lives are freer of their deepest pains, and much different than their “real world”.

    Tl;dr I am Always here for Alex Danvers centered episodes!!

  5. This is starting to remind me of that one episode of Buffy that truly traumatized me deeply and irrevocably

    One episode? Only one episode of Buffy traumatized you?


    The VR pulls on Alex’s subconscious to project her friends onto the NPCs, which means it’s an exaggerated view of how she sees them. It reminds me a lot of that one episode of She-Ra where they’re playing D&D and we get to see the cast from Bo and Glimmer’s point of view.

    Obviously, Alex sees Nia Nal as a babe because her NPC avatar had hair porn that would make an Earp jealous.


    I see that Ms. TessMACHER! is back, and because of the Crisis that suggests her entire backstory is changed. What mischief will she manage this time?


    A Nia centered episode, an Alex centered episode, and a Luthor centered episode. As much as we enjoy this bounty brought on by the need to free up Melissa’s schedule to direct the latter, I wish the writers would do more to weave plots for the supporting characters into the season arc instead of giving us these occassional, but delightful, one offs.


    “In case of blueberries.”

    Do you think Violet Beauregard’s fate gave a young Kelly nightmares?

  6. I loved this ep and Chyler was amazing!

    “She keeps calling herself Aloy and mumbling about robot dinosaurs.”
    I spat out my tea reading this, I’m playing Horizon atm….

  7. Alex Danvers said she would buy the flowers herself.

    Thanks, Chyler, I have missed your amazing acting chops. I think, there haven’t been too many opportunities for her to shine (since season 2), which frankly makes me a bit sad/mad. But she smashed this one with a funny wig.

    Even Kelly had a bit of story here— since she isn’t usually in the centre of things, it’s a bit difficult to connect to her character when she steps in the circle. The writers really have to find a way to balance things out for many of the characters.

    But back to Alex who is grieving and at breaking point, so why not escape and be Supergirl in VR. Interesting choice, I must say. Like thinking that your little sister used to have it easier somehow, because she didn’t have to carry that huge burden of protecting the family (yet). Because with super powers you’re somehow safe from very human pain (when we know that Kara is riding high on emotions). Alex wanting to be Supergirl is explained as looking for hope (and punching something). I get that, but still think an episode with Alex trying to confront her (virtual) dad would have been stronger (was Dean Cain not available?!)

    We don’t get that closure though, so that’s probably more real than anything.

    Stay safe everyone!

    PS: What’s up with the spam in the comments…?

  8. “If you have a contact at the NSA, now would be a good time to mention it. Not, say, 100 phone calls from now.”

    I LOL’d!

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