Sunday Funday is Celebrating Weddings, Babies, and Nancy Meyers

Hello friends and happy Sunday! We’re here once again, back at it to talk about the good things in this world, like babies being born and NEW NANCY MEYERS SPECIALS, and so much more. I’m not gonna ruin it for you, let’s get right on into it.


+ Gorgeous fat femme Chaya Milchtein and her masc partner Morgan got married in the most perfect COVID compliant wedding.

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I was able to peacefully sob my way through my vows because of one incredible plus size woman, @robinechalmers . She's a day of cordinator and truely was my right hand woman. Robin made sure we had enough water, my veil was steamed, lunch was pucked up, the alter was set up, our glass and wine was purchased and so so many other things. It would have been a wildly hectic day without her. Go follow her! She's a recently married plus size beauty. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I wrote my own vows and then read them to my queen. Here's what I said: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Morgan, when I met you I didn’t think I’d ever want to marry, because somehow marrying meant I’d lose a piece of myself. With you, that’s not been further than the truth. You’ve breathed a passion into me that I didn’t know could exist. A desire to be content, happy, and fulfilled. I won’t hesitate to proudly call you my love, my wife. Today is our ultimate compromise. A wedding with no one, yet with everyone present. I promise to spend my life compromising with you, finding creative ways to mesh our two unique identities to accomplish things that will make us both happy.  Sometimes I can be a bit much, but you mellow me out. Either way, I promise to make space for you to have your alone time, to not do anything for a bit, and just let you focus on you. And of course, to kick you out of the house to ride your tricycle.  Part of growing with each other has meant learning to travel and explore, vacation, and adventure. I promise you that I’ll always make time to travel with you, planning adventures as often as we can afford them, because life is short, and I want to see the world with you before we leave it. And I’ll try to stay off my phone too.. Above all, I promise to honor and respect you, hold your hand when things get rough, and really listen to you when you speak. Honor and love work side by side, and I promise to keep working every day to earn and keep each of those.  ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 📷 @naturalnerd_designs Hair: @jasmine_shearcanvas 💄@j_jtheemua 👑 + Veil @laine_london 💍 @zalesjewelers 👗👗 @davidsbridal #2wives #queerentinebrides #queers #Marriedlife #gaywedding #interracialcouple

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What’s that about bridal wear being gender neutral? We love to see it!

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+ Shanda Leer, a queer drag performer, connects to queer fans through… sports?

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+ Batman and Robin is the definition of Camp.

This is what makes Batman and Robin so interesting. It seems to exist largely as a rejection of that vanilla and bland sexuality in Batman Forever. If Batman Forever felt like an uncomfortable embrace of the homophobic paranoia of Seduction of the Innocent, then Batman and Robin plays like a firm rejection of the philosophy of Frederic Wertham. There is something quite compelling in all of this, and Batman and Robin is fascinating to revisit in that context.

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+ Amanda Nunes has a daughter!

Editor’s Note 9/27/20: An earlier version of this column referred to Chaya Milchtein and Morgan as femme partners.  That reference has since been updated. We apologize for the error.


And that’s all folks. For this week’s good news, and also for my time at Autostraddle. Today’s Sunday Funday is my last post as a writer for Autostraddle dot com, a place I have grown so much at and have great love for. I will miss writing these for you each week, I will miss answering your questions in the A+ Inbox, I’ll even miss moderating your comments. But everything, literally everything comes to an end, and this is the end of my time. I’m going to remember it fondly. I’m leaving with a full heart, and eyes excited about what the future brings for me.

So, like I tell you every week: I love you so much. Do something for yourself this week: read a book you’ve been meaning to read, take a long lay on your couch, get a weighted blanket. Snuggle your pets, snuggle your person(s), wear a danged mask, and believe that everything, bad things and good things, will have an end. And that endings are not bad, they’re just endings. Okay, I really do love you, mean it, bye.❤️🌈✨

Ari is a 20-something artist and educator. They are a mom to two cats, they love domesticity, ritual, and porch time. They have studied, loved, and learned in CT, Greensboro, NC, and ATX.

Ari has written 322 articles for us.

29 Comments

  1. Chaya (one of the brides above) is an incredible mechanic and educator! I took her (online) class on how to buy a used car, and it was so, so helpful. Seriously, if y’all have cars, look up Mechanic Shop Femme. I can’t recommend her enough, and I’m so glad she had a lovely wedding day.

  2. Oh wow, I wrote my comment before reading the whole set of links and the paragraph at the end. Ari, I’ll miss your voice here. Thank you for all of your words and links and moderation and everything else you’ve done. I always looked forward to reading your exhortations to us each week.

    Wishing you joy and success in whatever is next.

  3. Ari! Your posts have always been one of my favorite parts of the week and I’ve loved your voice here. Thank you for all that you’ve brought and shared and given. I hope the future brings you deepening and furthering in every way that is yours ✨

    Also this festival has been bringing me JOY this week and I think you would enjoy this too so:

    Going to miss you!!

  4. I’m really going to miss Sunday Funday with you Ari! Your messages at the beginning and end always make me smile and feel good. Thank you so much for all your writing here, and I hope you keep having lots of snuggle time with your pets!!!

  5. Ari! Your weekly Sunday funday intros have always been inspiring (it’s not easy to be inspiring every week!) and I’ve always appreciated your moderation services AND your myriad presences on AS, at camp, etc. thank you for your service and I hope we see you around!!! 💙

  6. I’ve hemmed and hawed about what to say— just, Ari I will really really really miss your voice on Autostraddle!! Your Sunday Fundays have been such a treat to look forward to on the weekends. I love the way you write about performance, faith, identity, and home life. I hope wherever you’re headed next professionally is sustaining and enriching for you. ✨❤️ I’m excited to listen to the L Word podcast ep this week w/ you as guest! I haven’t been keeping up w/ the episodes but I’m tuning in this week for sure.

  7. I’m a long-time lurker around here, and I’m always too shy to comment. But I love your writing so much, and just had to comment to tell you how much strength and joy you have given me, and to wish you the best in everything you do in the future.

  8. Ari I will miss your voice here! Thank you for everything you’ve brought to us here, and best of luck with all of your ongoing and future endeavors <3

    Also, Chaya Milchtein's online Mechanic Shop Femme classes are really excellent and I highly recommend them! I took her used car-buying class in the spring and it was so so helpful at demystifying the process and giving practical advice. I'm so happy for her and her wife!!

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