So You’re Gay Now: Interview With My Childhood Best Friend, Iah

Welcome to So You're Gay Now, a series where Autostraddle writers get back in touch with that person they went to school with/knew from summer camp/grew up next door to who has since come out to ask:

When did you know?
When did you come out?
How did you perceive the LGBTQ-friendliness of the environment we were in?
Did you want to make out with me?
Did you get a vibe from me?
Secret celeb/high school crushes?
What would you change?

I can't think of sixth grade without thinking of Iah. She was the friend I could never quite believe I had: smart, outspoken, well-liked across all social groups. And she forever had a bit of mystery about her as the new kid who ultimately left as quickly as she'd come. She moved to Chile partway through the year after her dad went on sabbatical (a word I'd never heard but immediately hated) at work. My 10-year-old heart couldn't imagine anything more devastating. This was right before the internet exploded across the world, so we could...

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Carrie's body is weird and she's making that work for her. She lives in DC by way of Los Angeles and has a conflicted relationship with social media, but you can follow her on Twitter and Instagram anyway.

Carrie has written 83 articles for us.