When it comes to boundaries, our strengths are our weaknesses and our weaknesses are our strengths. (Also let us talk about Raven Symoné’s chaotic gay TikTok, shall we?)

From owning your erotic imagination to navigating your anatomy and someone else’s, here’s your intro to having gay sex for the first time.

Should you tell your friend you’re concerned about her marrying a 20-year old conservative Christian, should you reach back out to someone you ghosted, how do you deal with the aftermath of an emotional affair between your partner and a mutual friend — the team answers these questions about your friendship drama and more!

We’ve got everything: diva cups, girls with feelings and guitars, hand massages, busted knees, phantom doors, QTPOC speakeasy takeovers, Gabby in a canoe, Jasika Nicole in a smoke machine, fresh tears cried for Maddie, a bloody nose, butt sex, lip-syncing and gosh, so much more.

Definitely by the end of the night, if no one says, “You shouldn’t be single anymore. This isn’t working for the rest of us,” then I didn’t break up properly.

“I can be very unchecked in my opinions. And I don’t regret it. I’ve told casting directors in the room that parts are problematic or that projects shouldn’t get made.”

Riese: So then we cut to Dylan’s condo or wherever.
Carly: Wherever Dylan lives.
Shannon: Her corporate housing.
Riese: Yeah, her corporate — Dylan has her tea because she’s like, “I’m entertaining a British woman at 11:00 p.m.”
Carly: “So I must make tea!”
Shannon: “Crumpets and tea.”

Let’s make some noise for the bottoms in the house! (It’s me, the bottom in the house.)

In Part 3 of the series, we’ll be addressing issues like dealing with internalized transphobia, going “stealth”, and how you can help your partner if they are struggling with gender dysphoria. PLUS a video!

“When time came for them to watch Top Model, which they did, I think they started seeing gayness in a normal and great light, because people liked me for that on the show. That was an attractive part of me on the show, it wasn’t anything embarrassing or perverted, and it was just a great thing. I think they started seeing me through the eyes of all the accepting people.”

When I read Middlesex, I felt that tinge of recognition I think a lot of queer and trans people look for when they realize something is different about themselves.

The author discusses her new memoir “The Red Zone,” which chronicles her experiences with premenstrual dysphoric disorder and provides a kaleidoscopic view of how people feel about their periods.

Wipe away those break up tears because we’re going to show you that love is not a lie! This week we have Autostraddle editor and all around icon Heather Hogan talking about her 11 year(!!) relationship with her wife and all things long term relationships.

“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”

What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What to do if you’re longing for queer chosen family, but don’t feel like you’ve gotten there, and more!

“I feel like I’m very much a stickler for how Black church is shown on TV, and I think a lot of people get it wrong in movies and TV a lot, like it just never is quite right. And I feel like Hollywood is that way too. And I felt like this [portrayal of Hollywood] was very accurate, and I was shocked!”

Are you ready to get this Prop 8 thing taken care of once and for all? SO ARE WE. We recap today’s closing arguments on the Prop 8 trial on gay marriage in California, with characteristic Autostraddle style and class.

You’re really gonna wanna see this video Heather made us while on painkillers after taking apart her Roomba to see if she could put her Roomba back together.

“what if autostraddle just became a mariah carey fansite”

“As a person of Midwestern experience, I can say that a Lake House is supposed to be on a lake.”