“it’s amazing how much more grownup writing a column on the internet makes you seem.”

The dead lesbian TV characters trope is even worse than you think.

“We built a movement by telling each other our lives and thoughts about the way life should be. We cut against the grain and re-thought almost everything. “

“Janeane Garafalo stars as Helen, who considers herself a witch first and lesbian second.”

What the battle over ‘religious freedom’ looks like in magistrate offices and universities; Rahm Emanuel backpedals on police violence in Chicago; the Supreme Court hears arguments on affirmative action and more.

Lucas Silveira nabbed Sexiest Man in ChartAttack’s 2009 Awards. New research confirms existing research about harsh realities for trans and gender-nonconforming youth in US Schools. Obama might talk about DADT in the State of the Union tomorrow. The Moscow mayor thinks gay pride parades are Satanic. The HRC tells you where to work. And Chicago might appoint a lez to the city council.

I had heard about Reina Gossett and Grace Dunham’s close relationship, and how it was informing some incredible work together, so I sought them out to find out more — over the course of our afternoon together in NYC, our conversation covered everything from the damages of biological essentialism to the radical power of empathy to how important it is to feel sexy sometimes.

Chang has a lot of secrets. The main one is she’s a total badass!

Lena makes the very bad decision not to tell Stef that she kissed Monty.

Your favorite lesbians are helping Haiti, conservative commentators are on our sides, Gaga loves us, Rosie wants to make out with Sue Sylveste, Maureen Dowd talks to our favorite Prop 8 Trial lawyers, Megan Mullaly joins “Party Down,” Gender Puzzle film looks at the science of gender, Queen Latifah’s sexuality analyzed via winterwear, GenAlso, some celebrities kissed!

It’s prom season and there’s no better time to look at these adorable queer, lesbian, bisexual and otherwise-identified humans going to prom with each other and looking damn good doing it. Plus a chance to submit your own!

The state of conversion therapy, campus sexual assault protests at Columbia, Marylin Zuniga and get-well cards for Mumia, an anti-trans bathroom bill in Nevada, abortion laws in Oklahoma, and more!

“Why do we only collect coming out stories, it-gets-better stories, these stories that are set in the past, that tell of a particular set of experiences that not everyone can relate to? Stories that treat the future as if it doesn’t come with a problems of its own.”

Details celebrates the joys of “dating a hasbian” by interviewing a bunch of guys and mentioning Anne Heche. Also; gays & lezzies smoke way more than everyone else, hookup culture, Dear Abby, more from V’s size issue, why women love Law & Order (Mariska?) and reasons to hate Oprah.

The death of trans teen activist Blake Brockington, good legislative news for same-sex parents in Maryland, Roy Moore says something regrettable, Ellen Pao takes sexism in venture capitalism to court, and more!

On our recent survey of Autostraddle readers over 29 we asked “who was the first lesbian or bisexual celebrity/public figure you remember being aware of?” These are the scientific results of that particular investigation.

This week on Glee, Brittany and Santana start planning their BIG FAT LESBIAN WEDDING, and everybody sings for their supper.

We’re excited about the Times Topic panel tonight! Mostly for J Beals. Miss California is totally down with opposite marriage, thank god. Katherine Moennig may have a new show on CBS, and LiLo sits down with Ellen on Thursday. Set your Tivo.

What, you didn’t think the gift giving was over, did you? We spent the holiday week cozied-up and reading through every one of your (many, many!) awesome comments. You’ve been so good this year; we wish we could wrap you all in a big family group hug! But due to the physical limitations of the internet, we’re giving out comment awards instead.

I have a historic amount of good gay news for you today, and you won’t wanna miss a thing.