In June, we told you about the positively swoon-worthy love story of bisexual badass New York Times best-selling writer, professor, and editor Roxane Gay and her girlfriend Debbie Millman, the lesbian writer, curator, artist and beloved podcast host of “Design Matters.”
WELL. We have breaking news! ROXANE GAY AND DEBBIE MILLMAN ARE ENGAYYYGED!
Continuing to prove that the best way to court a writer is by offering up your own poetry, Debbie Millman chronicled their engagement via an Instagram rhyming carousel you may never forget. (You should probably prepare to squeal.)
God must really be a black woman, because last summer I was lucky enough to be in a room of nearly 400 queer humans when Roxane Gay got on stage and dared to hope for another 40 years with the woman she loved. And I have to be honest with you, I haven’t stopped thinking about them since.
The thing about being queer is that we don’t get a lot of grown-up gay love stories. It’s unfair; not only have history books sidelined us — the never ending consequences of those same erasures mean it’s that much harder for us to even dream. I don’t know a lot of “happily ever afters,” but I know that love is hard fucking work. There is nothing easy about being an adult who’s seen the real shit of the world and is somehow still willing to be vulnerable with another person. Waking up every morning and trying again? Those are the building blocks of magic.
From everyone at Autostraddle, our deepest congratulations to Roxane Gay and Debbie Millman.