Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!
The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.
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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
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You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
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You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?
It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?
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You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?
How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?
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You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
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You Need Help: I’m Butch and I Want To Try Makeup for the First Time
Remember that ultimately, using makeup and other facial cosmetics is really about making you feel like your best, most confident self.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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You Need Help: How Can I Plan for a Bad Breakup?
A breakup is a huge loss, and sometimes that doesn’t even just mean losing a person but other parts of your life, too.
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You Need Help: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
I know I must sound like a broken record: “break up…break up…break up!” But I truly think that you both deserve the kind of relationship where your needs are being fulfilled.
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You Need Help: How Do I Overcome the Feeling I’ll Never Find Someone After a Breakup?
I think we all need to shift away from the idea that the sole definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever.
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You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Over the First Woman I Slept With?
Focusing your energy on moving on and healing rather than trying to reconnect is the best path forward — and not just for you, but for her, too.
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You Need Help: Trying To Live Through the Pandemic Is Destroying My Mental Health
I want you to hold this: Even though the world is kind of terrible, your life is precious and valuable, and you are loved.
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You Need Help: I’m Too ‘Old’ for This New Generation of Queers
I’m so sorry the people you’re around have made you feel unwelcome because you don’t follow their narrow definition of what being a queer woman looks like.
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You Need Help: Your Friend Takes Everything Super Personally
What I hear from the anecdotes you shared is someone who is deeply lonely and feels deeply unseen, but you can’t be your friend’s therapist, even if you want what’s best for her.
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You Need Help: I’m A Teen And I’m In Love With My Best Friend
The line between friendship and romantic relationships is very thin, especially for queer people.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Know How To Be a Casual Friend
It sounds like you want to be neutral with your former friend. That will take some work and some boundary-setting on your part, but it’s doable.
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You Need Help: Should I Go No Contact With My Ex?
Exes don’t HAVE to be friends but also don’t HAVE to be enemies.
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.