Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?
As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!
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You Need Help: My Best Friend Broke Up With Me
How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.
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You Need Help: Am I Invisible to Other LGBTQIA People?
There isn’t a secret formula for attracting others, but confidence does go a long way.
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You Need Help: My Partner Won’t Say “I Love You”
Is it silly to be hung up on this?
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You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare
I am sending you and your person all my love and wishes for competent and compassionate medical care, swift healing, and fruitful conversations in the future about your growing relationship.
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You Need Help: I Was in a Relationship With Someone Who Didn’t Like Me
Does anybody have experience feeling angry with a person after the break up and the anger kind of growing?
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You Need Help: How Can I Be a ‘Good Ex’?
Relationships change. Relationships end. It’s not inconsiderate to move forward; sometimes being a good ex means maintaining boundaries.
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You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend
If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.
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You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!
The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.
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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
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You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
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You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
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You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?
How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?
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You Need Help: How Can I Plan for a Bad Breakup?
A breakup is a huge loss, and sometimes that doesn’t even just mean losing a person but other parts of your life, too.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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You Need Help: How Do I Overcome the Feeling I’ll Never Find Someone After a Breakup?
I think we all need to shift away from the idea that the sole definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever.
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You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
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You Need Help: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
I know I must sound like a broken record: “break up…break up…break up!” But I truly think that you both deserve the kind of relationship where your needs are being fulfilled.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Over the First Woman I Slept With?
Focusing your energy on moving on and healing rather than trying to reconnect is the best path forward — and not just for you, but for her, too.
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I’m a Hopeless Romantic Who Keeps Falling in Love With My Friends
“I have strong sexual feelings for another good friend of mine. They have a partner already and are poly.”