Results for: be the change
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View From The Top: How Topping Taught Me Physics And Feminism
Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.
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Poly Pocket: Queer, Poly, Living On A Boat
“Boats have also been incredibly healing for me and have really helped me create better relationships in all parts of my life. They make me work harder to maintain my friendships, be better at communication, and generally just better at existing around all different kinds of people.”
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Poly Pocket: Wholeness Doesn’t Mean One Thing
Here’s how a 23-year-old mixed race Asian genderqueer polyamorous bisexual femme who just moved to Brooklyn does poly.
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Poly Pocket: Question Everything
Here’s how a single 20-year-old Latina queer polyamorous femme who works as a nonprofit employee and fetish model does poly.
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Bottoms Up: A Way To Move Through The World
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
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View From The Top: Playing Through Depression
It’s almost impossible to master while grieving. When that grief turns into a depression, is it even M/s anymore?
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Poly Pocket: Gray Ace, Bi & Poly
“Being queer, Asian-American, femme, and gray ace — this is my identity and I get to choose what that means to me.”
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Bottoms Up: Did My Feminist Ancestors Burn Their Bras For This?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
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View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
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Poly Pocket: Being As Direct As Possible
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
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View From the Top: Dominant Fantasy vs. Dominant Reality
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
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Queer Crip Love Fest: Nobody Can Go Through This World Alone
In the spirit of gathering our strength and resisting the living hell out of these next four years, I bring you our sweetest installment to date — along with some notes for the revolution.
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Bottoms Up: Nope That Word Is Not For Me
“I cannot wait to have a partner with whom I can explore consensual non-consent in a 24/7 lifestyle. But to be called a slave? In America?”
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View From The Top: Polka Dots, Packing, and Protocol
We started to turn the top/bottom dynamics in our sex life into 24/7 dominance/submission. It was highly negotiated, mutually consensual, and extremely hot.
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Bottoms Up: My Time In The Dungeon
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
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View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
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View From The Top: How I Went From Top To Dominant
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.
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Bottoms Up: She Wants Me To Send Nudes But I Think She’s a Fuckboi
Nude selfies are how I first learned to see myself as a sexual being, and now they also let me determine how others see me — especially within kinky power dynamic relationships.
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View From The Top: I Started As A Bottom
Started as a bottom, now I’m here.
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Love & Canada: Whatever Happens, This Wedding Is Happening
“This week has involved a lot of needing to let go of all the things I can’t have total control over and I’m not good at that and I don’t like it but also maybe that’s okay.”