Results for: book
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My Word of the Year Was “Closer”
For as long as I can remember, I’ve held a silent tradition of closing out each year with a word.
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I Want My Queer Representation To Be Messy — Even When it Comes to Real People
To believe in love means to believe in its failures and missteps, too.
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A Lesbian Reflects on Lesbian Visibility (Sort Of)
I have started and stopped writing this so many times.
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As a Nonbinary Abortion Activist, Planning a Pregnancy Is Complicated — And Hopeful
Just after the overturning of Roe v. Wade, my doctor asks if I’m excited to have another baby.
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The Names We Call Each Other
On specific language, families, mispronunciations, and revisiting Jhumpa Lahiri’s “The Namesake.”
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That Time I Binged “Freaks and Geeks” While My Stalker Ex Held Me Captive
Kim and Lindsay’s friendship is the real love story of this series. I want them to end up as friends like everyone wants the leads to end up together in a romantic comedy. I shake with it.
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My Jiddo Fled Palestinian Genocide so I Could Be Free
A free Palestine means a freer world.
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Untethered: On Miss Havisham-Style Decision-Making
My ex and I worked out a separation agreement over the course of those months and signed it in August.
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Old Gal, New Tricks: Queer Menopause and Masturbation
This is what we don’t talk about when we (don’t) talk about menopause…and masturbation.
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Do You Have Fire?
While the rest of my family stayed buried in the grief of continuing to live in the physical home where my brother had just died, I got to fly away. Run to the wild gardens of Berlin. Wear men’s clothes as if they were the only pieces of clothing I ever owned.
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Homoerotic Friendships, Mosquita Y Mari, and the Things We Never Said
My friendship with her actually ended twice.
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I Didn’t Know Existential Therapists Were a Thing Until I Got One
“I’m an easy host, a rake, a card, I’m bejeweled, I have a gay face. I want to love and be loved. If reaching is a kind of being, it’s a reaching toward.”
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How Bottoming Helped Me Heal From Sexual Trauma
I had to learn how to feel safe in the world in order to bottom. For me, surrender is healing.
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Things That Have Mothered Me That Are Not My Mothers
I think of all the things that have taught me lessons and made me the woman I am and feel that, even if my mothers didn’t care for me the way I wanted them to, I still came out on the other side, not unscathed, but survived.
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The Unexpected Loneliness of Getting Divorced
I wondered if my friends were afraid that the honesty it takes to face that a relationship needs to end might be contagious. If they stood too close to me, they might realize they wanted to take a closer look in that mirror too.
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Say When
In the five years since I ended that relationship I’ve reflected on how I got into it, why I stayed, and my own part in the failure of it.
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The System Operates As Designed
Burnout is not simple tiredness. It is malaise and unexplained pain. It is a theft of spirit and the creative body.
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Untethered: Turning Dancing, D&D, and Body Piercings Into Friendships
One of the things about not having spent significant time being single is that my friends have often been tangled up with partners.
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Three Stages of Never Ever Doing Holiday Meals the “Right” Way
Holiday meals have always been mired in conflict for me.
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As a Trans Woman Getting Into Stand-Up Comedy, Can I Avoid Jokes About My Identity?
My greatest fear in doing comedy is being a hack.