NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Training for Butt Sex

Feature image of Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

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Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

“Manhattan will no longer prosecute people for performing consensual sex work,” reports Claire Lampen at the Cut:

“The Manhattan district attorney’s office says it will stop prosecuting people for engaging in consensual sex work and unlicensed massage and has already begun dismissing cases dating back to the 1970s. DA Cy Vance moved to drop 914 open cases while announcing the policy shift on Wednesday, explaining that ‘criminally prosecuting prostitution does not make us safer and too often achieves the opposite result by further marginalizing vulnerable New Yorkers.'”

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

Here’s how to train your butt for anal sex:

“‘Anal training’ refers to the steps to getting you and your anus prepared, and happy to receive butt sex by gradually stretching it with fingers and toys, little by little and over time. Training, luckily, is part of the fun of all things anal—and it can be done solo or with partners.

Your anus consists of two sphincters: an inner one that we can’t control, and an outer sphincter that can be taught to relax, to open, to let pleasure in. As your body gets more accustomed to various sizes of toys, you can move on to bigger toys or body parts as you wish. […] Anal training takes time, practice and patience (and a lot of lube), but the rewards are so worth it.”

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

Do you want to break up, or do you just want the fantasy of a horny post-vaccination summer where you can pretend that everything is okay? Either way, don’t let the moment of vaccination elation determine your decision:

“[Y]ou shouldn’t let your elation at having been vaccinated alone fuel your decision to break up. ‘The two worst times in your life to make an important decision are when you’re feeling really, really bad and really, really good,’ Pearson said. While the world may feel like your oyster, post-vaccine relief and excitement could cloud your judgment and contribute to impulsive, emotion-driven decision-making—say, ending your relationship after making eyes with the first hot person who crosses your path.”

Sometimes you just need to have a post-breakup threesome.

“What if living through an unprecedented moment of total disaster has fundamentally altered us forever?,” writes Haley Mlotek at Esquire.

Here are sex workers explaining why the SAFE tech act will break the internet.

No, the Covid-19 vaccine won’t give you herpes.”

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

It is totally okay if you’re not that sexually experienced and trying to date. That is one way to start to get experience, after all. At Allure, Molly Burford writes about what to do if that’s you and you both want to feel more confident and set some boundaries:

“When it comes down to it, the strongest feeling I associate with my lack of experience is shame. Besides being emotionally taxing, shame can also lead to risks such as saying ‘yes’ to sex acts you might not be totally into or ready to try as a means of overcompensation or to try to get practice. It can also lead to unsafe sex based on a lack of knowledge.

‘I think those are the biggest things, saying yes when you probably shouldn’t because you think you have to, or that you should, and not knowing safer sex protocol around different things,’ Dirty Lola says.”

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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

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4 Comments

  1. Imagine if legislators put as much energy into figuring out how to actually protect society’s most vulnerable people as they do into coming up with their fucking stupid acronyms for their bullshit censorship bills.

  2. Thanks for the thing about dating while sexually inexperienced — I’m a post op trans woman and while I had lots of piv sex pre-op, it’s really different now and I feel like I’m way behind the curve since I don’t really know what I like to be able to guide a partner. I definitely put pressure on myself to have sexual experiences that I’m maybe not 100% on board with but consent anyway because it doesn’t cross any of my red flags. Good to see I’m not the only one.

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