Lying’s the Most Fun a Girl Can Have

names and other identifying details have been changed. 

This post was originally written in 2018 and republished in 2021

Of everything I've considered saying about my former on-and-off employment as a sex worker in New York City for around five years in my twenties, the fact I find most difficult to articulate and remain conflicted to admit is that it did, inexorably, change how I felt about men.

It's the politically incorrect gulf in my coming out story I inelegantly sidestep: I identified as a heterosexually-inclined bisexual when I started giving hand jobs for money, and I left more or less a lesbian. It wasn't the only factor in that transformation, but it was a major one.

Things I feel better about saying: I often hated it, sometimes loved it, and always liked it better than working at The Olive Garden. I'll tell you that I loved the money-to-hours ratio and the hustle and how I'd never endured a sexual-harassment-free workplace in my life and at least in this ...

You've Reached A+ Content!

Reader support is the cornerstone of our business model and it enables us to keep this site and 99% of our content free for everyone. Although we’d never put up a paywall for anything we know is necessary to our community, we do provide bonus content for A+ members like this post, the A+ member advice column and our monthly behind-the-scenes newsletter. It’s our thank you to the A+ Members who are playing a key role in keeping independent queer media alive.

In 2020, 86% of our support came through readers who enable us to pay the incredible LGBTQ humans who make this community run. Your membership contribution helps us to do this.

You can become a member and join the community that keeps Autostraddle working starting at just $4 a month.

Every member makes a difference when it comes to helping Autostraddle thrive, build queer community, and be here for the next person who needs us.

Join A+ Today!

Already a member? Sign in

Riese is the 39-year-old Co-Founder and CEO of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, blogger, fictionist, copywriter, video-maker and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and then headed West. Her work has appeared in nine books including "The Bigger the Better The Tighter The Sweater: 21 Funny Women on Beauty, Body Image & Other Hazards Of Being Female," magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

Riese has written 2862 articles for us.