Also.Also.Also: Kristen Stewart Is So Excited To Get Married She’s Worried She’ll Make The Wedding Weird

Feature photo of Kristen Stewart by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic

HELLO!! Today is brought to you by this never-ending writer’s block and the cheddar goldfish and peanut M&Ms that I ate today and called lunch. Don’t panic, I’m having chicken noodle soup and a sandwich for dinner.

I’m also going to watch Abbott Elementary, have you seen Abbott Elementary?? IT IS SO GOOD.

Queer as in F*ck You

“The thing is, I always kind of blow presentation,” Stewart says. “I have all these big ideas, like I will get a friend a beautiful present that I’m so proud of. And I just think they’re going to love it. But instead of wrapping it up and like putting a bow on it and giving it to them at the right time, I’m like, ‘Oh, my gosh, I have this thing and I know it’s like a week before your birthday, but just f— have it because I love it and I love you.’ And if I had just wrapped it and put this in their hands on the right day, the impact would have been greater.

“And so I’m probably going to do that with my wedding too.” She cracks up at the thought. “I’m probably going to look back and have to do it again … which would surprise absolutely no one who knows me.””

Kristen Stewart on Her Perfect L.A. Day, Her Oscar Nom and, Yes, Wedding Plans. Oof my fellow overly anxious queers, get ready for relatable content!

A Record Number of U.S. Adults Identify as LGBTQ. Gen Z Is Driving the Increase. (there’s a chart in here! I know y’all love charts!)

And keep those stats about Gen Z in mind when you read this very depressing thing, Politicians Target LGBTQ Kids in National Erasure Campaign From Classrooms to Sports Fields. “Facing limiting legislation, book bans, harassment and more, gay and transgender youth say they are being ‘erased’ from the U.S. education system.”

At Trans- And Asian-Owned Han Training Gym, Members Find Inclusive Space. ‘Where It’s Safe To Be Your Whole, Radical Self.’ “Owner and personal trainer Minky Kim founded the Northalsted gym to create strength training programs that align with their values of radically dismantling white supremacy, queer- and transphobia, fatphobia, ableism and classism.” 😍

Supreme Court to Decide Whether Some Businesses Can Refuse to Serve Gay Customers. This thing we’re doing where the Supreme Court is just retrying cases that we’ve already decided (like abortion, Affirmative Action, and the rights of businesses to discriminate) is just really stressful to me, okay???

Saw This, Thought of You

Whew! FIN-A-FUCKING-LY!! LFG!!!! USWNT, USSF Settle Equal Pay Suit for $24M. It also includes a promise from the USSF to equalize pay between the men’s and women’s national teams for all competitions, including the World Cup.

Saying Goodbye to My Childhood Friend Arthur, and did you see our coverage of the Arthur finale? Did The “Arthur” Finale Just Confirm The Lesbian Is A Lesbian?!?

“Call Me Maybe” Is Still A Cultural Moment, 10 Years Later

Was I Wrong To Quit My Job, Or Is It Just Nerves? “Even when you have good reasons to quit, it’s nerve-wracking to leave a situation where you’re comfortable.”

Political Snacks

From the author (and as I’ve said many times before, one of my favorite political thinkers) Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor: “I wrote about the ways Black feminists in the 60s and 70s tried to broaden the scope of abortion rights & how their insights are even more important today w abortion under attack.” How Black Feminists Defined Abortion Rights.

We have a week left in Black History Month, so let’s just go ahead and make that one ^^^  your MUST READ of the night.

And One More Thing!

Beanie Feldstein in this dress! That’s all! Just Beanie in this dress!

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Carmen Phillips

Carmen Phillips is Autostraddle's former editor in chief. She began at Autostraddle in 2017 as a freelance team writer and worked her way up through the company, eventually becoming the EIC from 2021-2024. A Black Puerto Rican feminist writer with a PhD in American Studies from New York University, Carmen specializes in writing about Blackness, race, queerness, politics, culture, and the many ways we find community and connection with each other.  During her time at Autostraddle, Carmen focused on pop culture, TV and film reviews, criticism, interviews, and news analysis. She claims many past homes, but left the largest parts of her heart in Detroit, Brooklyn, and Buffalo, NY. And there were several years in her early 20s when she earnestly slept with a copy of James Baldwin’s “Fire Next Time” under her pillow. To reach out, you can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram, or her website.

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  1. Thank you for the links Carmen. I hope your soup and sandwich was nourishing and yummy.

    I’m having one of those days where reading actual articles feels like too much, but somehow reading an article about other articles doesn’t? IDK. Anxiety is weird.

  2. I’m with Kristen on gift giving, it’s the reason I always leave birthday and Christmas gift shopping late. Few years ago I bought my sister something in late November and it was absolute torture waiting until Christmas day to give it to her, never again!

    One in five Gen Z adults identify as LGBTQ, that is pretty wild, 1 in 10 millennials as well.

    1% of Americans are Lesbians so there should be about 3.4 million of us, where we at!?!

    Conservatives have 6-3 majority on the Supreme Court so they’re basically just redoing everything, the voting rights act is dead, roe v. wade will be destroyed or severely weakened and bigoted religious people will be emboldened to discriminate once SCOTUS gives them the go-ahead.

    …but happy happy thoughts… happy thoughts…

  3. Can we talk about Candace Parker’s baby? Because Candace Parker’s wife had their baby and his entire little baby body is only slightly bigger than Candace Parker’s hand. Gay athletes’ babies are the cutest babies.

  4. Thank you for mentioning Abbott Elementary!! 😍 The show is so funny and amazing. I’m so happy it exists!

    Also, ditto what Cleo commented above. I appreciate the hard work you and the Autostraddle team do to help inform us, especially since I get easily overwhelmed with the amount of information that is out there. I check Autostraddle on the daily (one of my coping mechanisms) and am eternally grateful for the safe space and much needed escapism. ❤️

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