Dear Queer Diary: Take This Quiz, Know Thyself

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Back in the days when I was still dating boys, Facebook kindly alerted me to the fact that my then-romantic interest (who I shan’t dignify with the term “boyfriend”) had taken a quiz entitled “Which non-existent fruit are you?”

Although I have done my best to forget many other aspects of our relationship, I will always recall this moment as a kind of watershed — the moment when the outrageous internet quiz announced its presence to my cultural consciousness in a sudden foreshadowing of all that was to come. No longer just for tweens absorbed in the pages of women’s magazines (see: Now and Then), the quiz had entered a new era.

I am certain that you already know your Downton Abbey alter ego (I am proud to be Mrs. Hughes) and which lesbian icon corresponds to your personality (I am even more proud to be Gertrude Stein) — now is the time to discover who you are as a journaler.

You don’t even have to fill in any bubbles! (Via Huffington Post)

You don’t even have to fill in any bubbles! (Via Huffington Post)

Due to my limited technological savvy, you are responsible for recording your own answers, so please, go find yourself a pencil.

1. You began journaling…

a) around the time you started finding yourself staring at girls in your pre-algebra class
b) as soon as you learned to hold a pencil/ballpoint/felt tip/quill pen
c) when you realized that high school was not actually all that similar to the musical Grease
d) after you read about its virtues in a self-help book

2. The pages of your journal are…

a) lined
b) adorned with pre-printed inspirational quotations
c) blank
d) graph paper

Graph paper: it’s not just for math class. (Via Deborah Lowe Alexander)

Graph paper: it’s not just for math class. (Via Deborah Lowe Alexander)

3. The cover of your journal features…

a) a letterpress print of a mustache, narwhal, or other icon of perfect quirkiness
b) a rising sun, Monet’s water lilies, and/or glitter
c) a purple- and gray-hued collage you crafted in your college’s art studio
d) the words “If lost, please return to,” followed by your name and telephone number

4. Your favorite place to journal is…

a) your bed, otherwise known as Pillow Island
b) the gorgeous verandah of the house where you are employed as an au pair for seven musically talented Swiss children
c) your neighborhood coffee haus, complete with exposed brick and tattooed baristas
d) your neatly organized desk, which you purchased at IKEA and admire for its clean Scandinavian design

Pictures of home offices have been known to make my knees weak. (Via Pretty Providence)

Pictures of home offices have been known to make my knees weak. (Via Pretty Providence)

5. The majority of your journal contains…

a) exhaustive accounts of ALL THE FEELINGS
b) a list of all the things you’re thankful for, along with a strawberry scone recipe you tore out of Martha Stewart Living while sitting in the waiting room at the dentist’s office
c) angst-filled descriptions of your frequent romantic conquests, followed by equally angst-filled descriptions of your similarly frequent break-ups — all illustrated in a series of abstract black-and-white photographs
d) pro-con lists, which you use to make life decisions in a calm and rational manner

6. Whenever someone asks if they can read your journal, you…

a) blush furiously and mumble something about privacy
b) jump for joy at the opportunity to show off your latest purrito collage
c) glare at them until they retreat in terror
d) hand them your notebook with no fear — every entry is penned in an unbreakable code you developed in consultation with a cooperative CIA agent

Mostly As
You are a BEAUTIFUL BALL OF FEELINGS. If your emotions were a skein of multi-colored handspun yarn, your diary would be the oversized sweater you knitted using it. Writing about your feelings allows you to process effectively–but your mother has been known to accuse you of excessive wallowing now and then.

Mostly Bs
You are a CUDDLY OPTIMIST. The sun shines from the pages of your diary, as you make plans, appreciate small victories, and pet every puppy that frolics past your apartment building. While some may find your eternal sunshine irritating, know that Pharrell and these ASL superstars approve of your happy journaling philosophy!

Most Cs
You are a DARKLY ARTISTIC SOUL. Your philosophy is that a journal is a place to express yourself — in any and every medium. While your ex-girlfriend may not have appreciated the series of sketches you devoted to documenting the development of her cold sore, you are confident that someday that series—and your entire collection of notebooks — will be on display in the galleries of the MoMa.

Mostly Ds
You are a BEACON OF RATIONALITY. For you, journaling is a means to the end of world domination. Other journalers admire your for your razor-sharp mind and excessively neat handwriting — and politely pretend they don’t know you have a Tumblr where you post cat videos and GIFs from Pretty Little Liars.

Let it be known that I would appreciate this statue more if it were of a lady. (Via Golly Gee)

Let it be known that I would appreciate this statue more if it were of a lady. (Via Golly Gee)

Share your results, reactions, and quibbles in the comments! Did this highly scientific quiz get you all wrong? All right?

And if you can’t get enough of diary-related pseudo-psychoanalysis, take these vastly inferior journaling quizzes I found online.

Dear Queer Diary is a column about the joys (and occasionally, the pains) of journaling. We crack open our tiny notebooks and break out the rainbow-colored pens on the regular, so get ready to limber up your writing hands and document all your beautiful feelings!

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Maggie is a freckly, punctuation-loving queer living in the Boston area. She supports her book-buying and tea-drinking habits by teaching America’s youth how to write topic sentences and spends her free time writing postcards and making sandwiches for her girlfriend.

Maggie has written 53 articles for us.


  1. You 100% accurately pegged me as a ball of feelings–my journal is all about the processing! Even when it seems like I’m writing about other stuff (cough *secret fanfiction drafts* cough), it’s actually processing.

  2. I AM A BEAUTIFUL BALL OF FEELINGS! I’m going to yell this at people whenever I’m crying at 4H events because everything is so beautiful and those kids are so brave and when I’m crying about accidentally deleting my minecraft world and when I’m literally sobbing because I spilled milk.

    I would agree that this quiz is highly scientific.

  3. I got caught up in not having a good option for the first question (where was “because my mother told me to”?) and didn’t actually take the quiz. (feelings-fest 100% though.) BUT. anyway. I just wanted to point out that online quizzes totally had a heyday prior to being a thing on facebook. I actually made my first okcupid account for the quizzes! and let us fondly remember quizilla enabling the average emo kid to make their own quiz telling you that you were dashboard confessional. I used to post all sorts of stupid quiz results in my online journal.

    • sometimes after I submit comments, I realize I probably should have proofread them to make sure they’re actually readable and not just a mess of words.

    • Ah, I have many a fond memory of posting my results from whatever “What Evanescence Song IS YOUR LIFE” quiz was going around livejournal at the time.

  4. Haha! I love this! I’m a combination of C+D – dark artist/painfully rational. Sounds about right! But actually I wanted to be a beautiful ball of feelings so… hmph.

    Worth getting a pencil for! And I share your love of home office pictures Maggie :D

  5. For some reason I keep imagining ‘The Thinker’ sitting on a toilet instead of a rock, it must be that brooding look – could he be constipated?

  6. Downton alter-ego: Thomas yesssssssss

    Lesbian Icon: Wanda Sykes

    Journaling personality: FEELIIIIINNNNGSSSS

    So… mouthy and clever with feelings??? I’LL TAKE IT. :P

  7. C+A peg me perfectly… I am knitting a dark artistic sweater of feelings!

    Maggie, you get three hundred points for “the gorgeous verandah of the house where you are employed as an au pair for seven musically talented Swiss children”. All the joy this damn website brings into my life with stupid details that make me laugh… :)

  8. Oh my god, this is the funniest quiz I’ve seen in ages. “jump for joy at the opportunity to show off your latest purrito collage” I MIGHT HAVE ACTUALLY DONE THAT.

    Lesbian Icon: Ellen
    Journaling Personality: CUDDLY OPTIMIST/Bs
    basically i’m so cheerful that i annoy myself, sounds about right

  9. Ooh, I’m an A/C combo. And my lesbian icon is Rachel Maddow. I think everyone needs to start loving me now.

  10. Lesbian Icon: Rachel Maddow
    Journaling my feelings about it tonight when I slide onto pillow island and pull out some lined paper.

  11. So I’ve been lurking on autostraddle for maybe 2 years, and I’ve been waiting for the perfect post to make my first comment (which has created a lot of pressure for me). I chose this one, because I love Dear Queer Diary and journaling generally. I also have a weak spot for internet quizzes. As it turns out, I’m a Beautiful Ball of Feelings =)

  12. Loved reading this! Mostly a’s of course. Accused of wallowing just yesterday by my mother.

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