Being shy and 27 and coming out, feeling a way about your exes, moving to your long-distance girlfriend’s city, telling your long-distance friend you’re crushing on her, and swing dancing!
This month brings Venus — planet of “hmm, maybe it would be nice to touch another human…” — into Aries, sign of “I’m going to explode if we don’t do this right now!”
Your family buys you weird gifts, your mom is kinda rude about your long-distance girlfriend, and you can’t move on after this breakup. Let’s get some shit done! Come on!
“There’s nothing better than finding out the way you love your body the most, and you’ve done that. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or weird for that.”
What should you do about a baby’s pronouns, how do you and your girlfriend both propose to each other, and how do you stop holding a candle for an idealized past? Come on in!
“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”
If you’re caught in a bad pattern, or can’t shake heartbreak or anxiety, ask yourself: what else might be true right now that I can’t see?
You sent your Yes/No questions and now I’m answering all of them!!! Do what I say!!
Old friends trying to reconnect, a first date that’s causing some nerves, and the overwhelming pressure to pick a major and stick with it. It’s time to give some advice and send some love to strangers!
Strap-on sex shouldn’t leave any bruises unless you want it to.
Saturn in Capricorn asks us to dig into reality and actually do the work. What will help us create a sustainable future for ourselves and the ones we love? How can we show up and dedicate ourselves to this process?
You don’t want to wear a dress but also don’t want to disappoint your family, you’re not as excited about your girlfriend as you used to be, and your girlfriend doesn’t know if she’ll still be with you next year. Get in here!
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!
Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.
“This has been a year of intense pressure on all our intimacies — even the strongest relationships are undergoing deep transformations.”
Checking on your ex, being honest with coworkers, being honest with everyone including yourself, and pulling yourself out of a year-long sad thing! Come help give advice!!
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
A handy collection of our very best holigay content to help you make it through this special time of year. Good luck out there!
Answers to all the yes/no questions you sent in since last Tuesday!