Scorpio season teaches us that we cannot keep carrying everything that has ever mattered to us and expect to still have energy for new growth — sometimes we have to let things go, or acknowledge what has already gone, before we can truly transform.
There is no quantifiable metric for being over someone. If you’re ready to date, you’re ready to date.
We’re going to learn how to take a perfect butt selfie together in honor of Autostraddle’s Butt Week and your perfect butt.
Relationships change. Relationships end. It’s not inconsiderate to move forward; sometimes being a good ex means maintaining boundaries.
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.
While it might feel terrifying to dig into our own secrets with so many other things to worry about, this is a season for patient exploration, for deep introspection. What have you been hiding from? Where have you been longing for freedom, and what has been holding you back?
Six months into the global pandemic, Libra energy is here to help us find balance in an unbalanced world.
The dynamic between white men and Asian partners is uncomfortable. There’s always a worry that they’re interested in what you represent, not who you are.
Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.
Libra wants every voice to be heard, every need to be met, for the most vulnerable and marginalized to be lifted up and protected. And as we shift into this new season, Justice demands that we carefully consider beliefs, that we pay attention to the systems that impact us, that we push back against the limits that are harming us. How are you standing up for your community, for those whose voices are so often silenced?
Stating your needs around masturbation in a relationship, moving on from an on-again-off-again relationship, your dad hasn’t worked through his homophobia, and more!
Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!
No one is bad at sex.
Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.
Should you come out to your father who also has narcissistic personality disorder? What do you do with the digital remains of a relationship post-breakup? Navigating privilege, the pandemic and the uprising; feeling “behind” in life, crushing on a quarantine roommate, and more!
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
As Mars turns retrograde, we’re learning how to tend the fires so we don’t burn out.
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.