Also.Also.Also: You Might Cry About a Dead Raccoon and Other Stories for Your Day

Hi there, stardust moonbeams! I’m currently staring out a window on a mountain and it’s GLORIOUS. The cabin across the street has like 47 wind chimes hanging along the front porch area and it’s pretty out of hand. I’m a person who loves a good wind chime — heck I even like a bad wind chime. This, though? This is out of hand. How many wind chimes do you have? What’s your wind chime limit, would you say? Like three, right? Three seems like a solid number. You get your wooden chimes, some tiny tinkling copper things, and then maybe a larger metal chime situation. Done. Anything over three it’s just, what are you trying to prove? What’s the deal?

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+ Can We Just, Like, Get Over the Way Women Talk?

+ A Transgender Immigrant’s Asylum Petition Was Just Denied. What Awaits Her In Mexico?

+ The K-12 Binary: “Schools are becoming ground zero for clashes over transgender rights.”

+ The Power of Seeing Women Masturbating on TV.

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+ This is horrific and disgusting and so terribly sad and on one hand I want to apologize for sharing it, but on the other hand I don’t have the right to do that, really. It’s the graphic story of Jackie Fuchs of The Runaways: The Lost Girls.

She told me she never thought she’d go public with her rape, but last fall, she started seeing similar stories everywhere. More than a dozen women had come forward against Bill Cosby. Kesha filed a lawsuit alleging that she had been drugged and assaulted by her producer, Dr. Luke. And there were so many undergraduate women who were finally speaking up about sexual assault. “I realized, ‘Oh my God, this is what’s happening on college campuses,’” she said.

Jackie saw herself in those young women and knew all the hurt and shame that awaited them. “They have to be making the same value judgments about themselves as I made about me,” she explained. “I know from personal experience how all those things can eat away at you. They can take vibrant young people and turn them into something else.”


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+ Some unusual front doors.

+ This is legitimately goddamned terrifying. I am terrified.

+ Judge Orders Cancellation of Redskins’ Trademark Registration. The team is appealing.

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+ Reforming Juvenile Offenders By Training Them to Read Faces.

+ A Conversation With the Psychologist Behind Inside Out. I don’t know I just keep being fascinated by this movie.

+ A Dozen Mouthwatering Facts About Krispy Kreme On Its Birthday HAPPY BIRTHDAY DONUTS I L U.

+ Sorry, new squirrel virus suspected in three human deaths. I don’t know this just seemed like information you needed to have.

+ I think it’s fine that this made me cry. People in Toronto Created a Memorial to a Dead Raccoon. I mean, different things make different people cry. It’s fine.

+ Earbuds that change the incoming sounds you hear. Did we already talk about this? I remember talking to someone about this and maybe it was you but maybe it wasn’t.

+ Dorothy Arzner: Hidden Star Maker of Hollywood’s Golden Age. This was written by an A-Camper! THAT IS RAD YOU GUYS.

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125 Comments

  1. That raccoon was super close to my work! Poor lil guy :'(.

    BUT I will say that the raccoons in Toronto are generally menaces – they’re MASSIVE and always fucking around in your compost and they don’t even have any shame about it, they just slink around like cats all “nothing to see here” instead of skittering away like a normal animal. So no one feel too sad about it ok?

  2. sooooooo many things to read!
    all these posts with all these links!!
    I have a guest this weekend, I can’t do all the reading I need to do now!!

    But yes, this is awesome, I will get to all of these, eventually.

    That raccoon, I teared up.

  3. sooooo, lots of these doors seem cumbersome and or not very safe but very pretty to look at. like, maybe for the set of a play, or a movie, but personally, i like to be sure that no one is walking into my house when i don’t give them express permission.

    also i really really love the if [insert person here] was your girlfriend series. “If Gwyneth Paltrow were your girlfriend, you would go out for brunch with her and Beyonce and Cameron Diaz, and Beyonce and Cameron would nod approvingly at you. “You’re good for her,” Cameron would say. “You tame her,” Beyonce would say, and you’d laugh and rest your hand on Gwyneth’s shoulder, and Gwyneth would smile, and outside a hundred ravens would take off in a cloud of black.”

    ALSO, i really wish i had a car right now for donuts because I have money and two dozen krispy kreme donuts for less than $5 sounds like heaven.

  4. That article on reforming juvenile offenders was interesting although I wish it provided more information. If these kids aren’t psychopaths as the article states than why is it that they are unable to recognize emotion. I’m not suggesting that they are psychopaths but the article doesn’t really give any other option other than mentioning that there might be something wrong with their amygdalas. It would be intriguing to find the source of their anti-social behaviors. This kind of study could also be applied to adults, I would be fascinated to see the affects this could have on fully grown adults and if this technique could be successfully used in rehabilitation programs.

    • Just like some people are more athletic and some people are less athletic, some people are more able to read emotions and some are less able. Just like people can practice an athletic skill, people can practice emotional skills.

      I work with little kids and some need more explicit help in reading the social cues of other kids and figuring out how to respond in socially appropriate ways, while others more easily get it on their own.

  5. For some reason, I’m obsessed with the psychology of Inside Out? I can’t stop analyzing it and reading OTHER people’s analyzations…that movie will never cease to be PURE GENIUS, not to mention Amy freakin Poehler’s arguably PERFECT performance…

  6. Loved the article about reforming juvenile offenders by training them to read faces. I remember seeing something on TV about this a few years ago and it was so fascinating. They showed how a proportion of young people had difficulty telling the difference between different expressions and that people in juvenile corrections facilities were more likely to exhibit this issue. In particular, they had trouble telling the difference between fear and anger, which often led them to react against what they perceived to be anger, but which was really fear. If it’s correct it seems like something we as a society could do something about and help a lot of people along the way.

  7. Gah! So many *EXCELLENT* links this week! I don’t even know where to start my weekend reading!! Well selected/curated choices! Thank you!

    (Ok, I told a teeny lie- I know where I’m starting: “The Power of Seeing Women Masturbate on TV”. Because, yeah. That’s awesome.)

  8. Ok, now that I’ve read the “Women Masturbating on TV” article in full, I’m having some feelings about it.

    On one hand, I agree that showing women on tv pleasuring themselves is super powerful and rare and necessary. On the other, (unless I’m mistaken) all of the examples that the writer provides are of white women, when I know that black television shows have been similarly exploring this for a while now (Gabrielle Union as the titular character on BET’s “Being Mary Jane” comes to mind right away). And I think that is worth special attention, because as much as female sexuality is still considered taboo, in a lot of black/Latinx communities- that can stigma can be even worse.

    I know that no one article can do everything, and this article is still worth the read, but I couldn’t help but walk away feeling- I dunno, unseen and not represented?

  9. I want a Krispy Kreme donut now and I don’t even like donuts very much.

    OITNB article is good. I’m still so bothered by GoT and Downton Abbey.

    I want to hear how 47 wind chimes sound. Ridiculous? Annoying? Too loud? Not as loud as one would think they’d be? Relaxing? Like a stampede?

  10. You do you but I will never cry for a raccoon because they terrify me- they’re smart, know how to use tools, and have human hands! What’s to stop on from picking the lock to my front door and then strangling me with it’s tiny opposable thumbs? Or fashioning some sort of weapon with it’s advanced brain and knowledge of tools?!

  11. That article about the way women talk blew my mind because it’s the first one I’ve seen that takes that approach and makes that argument. And I’ve seen so many to the contrary recently, and was starting to take them to heart, working in non-profit (which is way more business-y than anything I ever planned to be doing).

    Also those doors.

    • I also think that article was really cool :).

      It definitely feels a little bit like policing women when we read so many articles on “how they should or shouldn’t speak” (esp. when there are none out there for men). It’s also interesting to think about where those speech patterns come from and how they can hurt us WITHOUT telling us “in conclusion, we’re gonna tell you how you should behave”.

      I think it’s in the same line of looking at our choices regarding clothes / shoes / make up and recognising where it comes from / how it’s perceived WITHOUT slut shaming.

      A lot of women feel that it’s unfair that they should shave EVERYWHERE and men don’t have too, yet they can’t help but feel gross if they haven’t shaved. I’m currently trying to unlearn that but that’s MY decision and it shouldn’t be somebody else telling me i’m a bad feminist if I shave !

      So I think the language thing is the same issue : the articles shouldn’t be about how vocal fry is HORRIBLE and ugly and makes you look dumb, it should be about : where does it come from ? why are we using it? are we lowering our voices to sound more like men ?

      … and then once we understand that information, we get to make a choice about it. ON OUR OWN, like a grown up !

      • also i’d be really interested in learning / understanding how this particular phenomenon (vocal fry / “valley girl” speak – ugh I hate that term) intersects especially with race.

        Am I wrong in thinking it’s typically a white girl thing ? (I really have no idea, I’m French and we have different speech patterns dividing gender/race/Class).

        would WOC be more judged (esp. by white men) for “sounding black” or for having “vocal fry”, or would it be a mix of the two ?

  12. really liked the article on how women talk and its conclusion that we talk the way we do because “we are better at being human.”

    also, feeling pretty strong about my decision not to date gwyneth paltrow.

  13. I love the Also.Also.Also section, it is always so varied and yet so relevant to my interests! Reading all these articles will take so long, and I’ve got work to do, so I’ve narrowed it down to my favourite few…dozen :P

  14. I want a front door that is a combination of most of those front doors.
    Like just the most ridiculous thing, a door made up of smaller doors and each of the smaller doors is based off of one of the doors in the post.
    It would be the ultimate door, door-ception.
    Wow, have I said doors enough?

  15. I always save at least two links to Pocket out of these posts, and then I scroll up and save at least one more after reading the comments.

    That raccoon thing. I still think it’s hilarious that the hashtag included TO, because what, were they worried there might be a dead raccoon incident in some other city at the same time?

    I really need to talk about Tangerine with some queer people.

  16. Thanks for all of this Laneia! I’m exploring the links whilst eating my strawberries & granola and listening to the women of colour playlist. It feels like an enriching morning!

    The OITNB rape article is very powerful; I’m looking forward to the Autostraddle exploration of that episode. It was one of the most harrowing episodes of television I’ve ever seen.

  17. My partner & I took our daughter to Inside Out because it’s school holidays here. Goodness gracious Agnes Joseph we were already crying because of Lava (we’re both the volcano guy!) & then blubbed the whole way though . One of the best movies I’ve seen in ages.

    Also Serena is amazing. Simply amazing .Disgusting she earns less . At this point they’ll probably make her play left-handed & she’ll still win .

    Will try toreads the other articles this weekend.

    I just really really love AAA.

  18. Those earbuds are cool and stuff, but I’m waiting for a pair that can turn down tinnitus. Honestly, my ears don’t ring so bad and it’s better than it was last year, but I can’t a) take NSAIDs or anti-histamines, or b) listen to headphones, like, ever again if I want it to stay that way. I know people who have it a lot worse than me, too.

      • NSAIDs are ototoxic, and taking them a regularly can worsen tinnitus. I think my doctor warned me away because of something-something I can’t really understand, but I am now very, very careful about which medications I take.

        Good luck!

  19. If Gwyneth Paltrow was your girlfriend…literally what did I just read?

    I really felt that article on OITNB’s treatment of Pennsatucky’s rape storyline this season. I especially liked the last paragraph:

    “My hope is that going forward we can have a Pennsatucky Test for rape scenes much like the Bechdel Test. Is the victim’s point-of-view shown? Does the scene have a purpose for existing for character, rather than plot, advancement? Is the emotional aftermath explored? As long as sexual assault continues to be a scourge of our society, TV shows ought to mine the subject; it’s important we keep the conversation going. Just take care of your characters. Don’t rape ’em and leave ’em. They deserve to have their trauma acknowledged. They deserve to have their stories told.”

    I want a pair of those sound altering earbuds when they’re in like the fifth generation. They’d be so rad! They talk about adding reverb to everyday situations BUT what if you went to a concert hall and then made it sound like they were playing in your living room??

    COMPOSTABLE KEURIG CUPS. My family was gifted a Keurig at a recent holiday by another part of our family that is REALLY strapped for cash and we have felt awful ever since owing to the fact that we are totally not behind the massively destructive and wasteful system of non recyclable k-cups. We never ever use it and feel so bad because they must have really been proud to give us such an expensive thing that they thought we would use all the time (since we do drink coffee every day) and I would be so happy to be able to put it to good use, even if it’s abhorrently expensive.

    Um, who do I have to talk to to get a SUPER SQUAD LIKE CAITLYN JENNER??

    I still haven’t seen Inside Out and I feel like I’m failing life because of it.

  20. I loved the article about the way women talk. I have memories of past relationships with men in which I said the word “just” CONSTANTLY, I was so bothered that I used that word so much to communicate with them, but I also couldn’t reconcile another way to say it because using “just” is what I *meant* to say, I didn’t mean it any other way. I struggled a lot with this kind of thing, until I decided that I am going to talk the way that I do, and everyone else is *just* going to have to f*cking listen to me!

    Also loved the two pieces on masturbation on television and Penn’s rape scenes in OITNB. I was trying to figure out what was so different about the way OITNB treated these scenes and what was more meaningful, that article put it well into words.

    Also thanks for this compilation! I love that these things are like little literature reviews *heart eyes emoji*

  21. Remember when we were pirates as a title reminds me of last week when I answered a phone call only to say after the brief hellos “Oh I have your unicorn”. Work is strange. Maybe my unicorn sentence is the B-Side to the Pirates debut single? Also I have wind chime feelings…is there a collective noun for too many? Like an embellishment of wind chimes?

  22. So many things I want to read, the article on oitnb rape scenes was so good, hit on the reason I just can’t watch some things because of how they seem to regard rape.
    Can’t wait to come back and read everything I don’t have time for yet!

  23. I always got called out for my upspeak in grad school. I actually had a professor tell me he thought I couldn’t handle the more difficult theoretical concepts discussed in the class because of how I spoke when he first met me. I mean what a fucking prick.

    I got an A by the way.

  24. Personally I think one wind chime can be very chic, but any more – even, say, two or three – is already chaos, so might as well pile them on. Out of hand!

    1) That article on female talk is so annoying! From The Cut, I mean, I guess it’s fine, but anything this obtuse about talk and its uses by women…confront the performative!

    2) “If Gwyneth Paltrow were your girlfriend, she would laugh at all your gleeful misandrist jokes. “Men are ridiculous,” you’d say, and she would say, “Who, again?””
    I fucking love this. And the fact that The Toast filed it to ‘Beauty.’

    3) Bookmarking “The Lost Girls” for later reading. Thanks for the links Laneia!

  25. I bought a crop top to wear to camp, with no intention of wearing it anywhere else. But there were so many amazing crops being rocked at camp, and I felt so comfortable in mine, that I’ve finally started leaving the house in it, rather than just rocking it with yoga pants in my living room. I even layered it over a tank top and wore it to work once! :D

  26. I am SO excited about those biodegradable coffee pods.
    I have a very close relationship with my Nespresso, but despite the recycling program for pods that they have, I always end up feeling so guilty. Yay for science!

  27. The women talking article was fantastic, and very much needed in the current storm of contradictory thinkpieces on the topic.
    And about the windchimes.. maybe they were trying to create a sound wall? A very annoying, tinkly sound wall that says “DON’T ASK ME FOR A CUP OF SUGAR AND ALSO I DON’T THINK YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO SLEEP AT NIGHT”. Here in AZ, Sedona has this wind chime store where the windchimes actually sound quite beautiful.. some of them are HUGE, and I’ve always wanted one, but like everything in Sedona they’re reeeeally expensive.

  28. I feel as though the whole point of windchimes is to enjoy the combinations of notes which are specifically tuned to sound good together no matter what the random combination…. So, really having more than one in a specific area is just not respecting the art. Maybe two. Ok two is fine.

  29. Really enjoyed the women’s speech article – I took a linguistics class once where the tutor said that the most linguistically innovative group is teenage girls, and as their innovations eventually spread to the mainstream, they actually drive language change in society. Take that upspeak haters!

    The female masturbation article was also really interesting (though for god’s sake don’t read the comments). But I’m a Cheerleader was rated NC 17 for that tiny scene implying (not even showing!) Natasha Lyonne masturbating, because apparently women’s sexual agency is utterly terrifying.

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