Also.Also.Also: Where Are the New Lesbian Rom-Coms?

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Queer as in F*ck You

Whereas mainstream studio releases of rom-coms centering gay men have been quite en vogue lately, there’s still a dearth of contemporary lesbian rom-com films. A piece for i-D magazine — Queer Women Are Still Overlooked in Rom-Coms — looks at this disparity from a bunch of different angles and even brings up the question of whether we should even want lesbian or nonbinary rom-coms when so many of them are in service of promoting and reinforcing heteronormative expectations and standards of marriage and family. I’m not a person who particularly desires Happily Ever Afters from my queer cinema, but I’m also a lifelong lover of the rom-com genre, so I have quite a few feelings about this topic! The article does bizarrely miscredit Alice Wu as the director of Crush, which was directed by Sammi Cohen, but let me just use this as a moment to tell everyone to go rewatch my personal favorite lesbian rom-com of all time, Saving Face.

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

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  1. Rom-coms are probably my favourite film genre so I’ve been bemoaning the lack of queer women and NB leads for a long time. Definitely a worthy question to ask whether we want these representations in a genre that can and often does reinforce so many limiting and damaging narratives, but a) my answer is still yes! and b) I’d like to think queer romcoms that feel authentically queer and don’t reinforce the same issues are possible.

    • Happiest Season was a “love to bitch about it” moment for sure, but also was a huge success for Hulu iirc. They got a lot of sign ups from it and it was really popular when it came out–everyone who complained about it watched it first. So I don’t think the response to it is to blame, or at least not the main culprit.

  2. That is a beautiful poem. The article on the striking miners was really interesting – this was the first time I’d heard about it. It’s a damn shame they had to go back without a new contract but their kids have the values

  3. I love romcoms! I am still waiting for a lesbian romcom that:
    – is about adults (HS movies are a different subgenre)
    – has two characters who both know they are queer from the beginning of the film
    – is not about coming out or leaving a man for a queer relationship

    Now that there have been a few gay male ones I’m crossing my fingers that we get ours in the next year or two!

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