Also.Also.Also: Wait, Evan Rachel Wood Smells Like a Forest Floor and Other Stories for Your Day

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Monday again! Well, as I write this it’s actually Sunday night and I’m snacking on a ridiculous grilled cheese made with Swiss and coupled with a rosé because that’s what was in my fridge, and listening to this terribly good playlist that Laura Wooley compiled for us a couple of years ago. She asked every Autostraddle team member to submit the song they felt was the most beautiful song in the world. Listening to it is a lot like walking off an elevator into the secret middle of the person who submitted the song. Why did they find this the most beautiful? What can you learn about a person based on their choice? Lots of us gave explanations about our songs, but a handful of us didn’t. I didn’t. I didn’t have the words and I still don’t. My song sounds kind of sad on the surface? But then again it feels like just being yourself, too. Like Sunday nights. It feels like Sunday night to me. Like you don’t have to talk to anyone on Sunday nights, but that doesn’t mean you’re not thinking about them.

One Sunday night I sat on the back porch with my grandmother and watched a red fox eat the scraps she’d tossed under an oak tree. She said, “Looka there.” And I did, and then we didn’t make another sound until that fox filled itself up and left. She let her cigarette ashes fall in her cupped hand instead of turning around to the ashtray. I wanted to burn it into my soft wooden brain because I hadn’t seen a fox before, and I haven’t seen one since.

Anyway though, Sundays! I hope you had a good one.


Queer as in F*ck You

+ Study Finds That LGBTQ Bullying Has Terrible Longterm Mental Health Consequences! Who knew.

+ SoJourner McCauley, a Bronx Lesbian Activist, Looks Back — And Forward.

+ Alaina Leary resiliently shares her story here: Why I Changed My Name After I Was Raped.

+ Carmen shared this yesterday but I’m still not over it.

+ A quick heads up that Evan Rachel Wood Smells Like the Earth, in case you didn’t already want to [consensually!] bury your face in her neck.

+ The headline reads St. Vincent Made a Sexy, Funky Rolling Stones Cover for Tilda Swinton’s New Movie, As If We Weren’t Already Swooning, and that really truly sums it all up. Here’s the video!


Doll Parts

+ Hasbro’s New Star Wars Toys Feature Some Amazing Women.

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+ Katie Klabusich is here to explain What Justice Scalia’s Death Means for Your Reproductive Rights.

+ Why I Was Shocked to Enjoy the Deadpool Movie by Rebecca Watson.

+ Maybe you can relate to this piece by Dawn Claflin: I Hate Babies. Just read it, I promise it’s good.

+ Hey! Queer Mama Haley Jude has gifted you with the second interview in her video series for Mutha Magazine, Real Muthas, and you’re gonna love it a bunch! Skedaddle over there and soak up some of the beautiful real truth of mama-ing.


Saw This, Thought of You

+ First things first: The Day Beyoncé Turned Black.

+ What Made Scalia and Ginsburg’s Friendship Work.

+ Simran Sethi: “We’re Losing Biodiversity in Foods”.

+ This is the reason I turned to Laura’s playlist this weekend. It’s from 2014 but I still loved it and maybe you will too. In Search of the Perfect Love Song.

+ WHY IS VOICEMAIL STILL A THING. Attn: Riese Bernard.


And Finally

You want to make this DIY Memory Game! Just think of the possibilities! I can’t even keep typing there are just too many amazing—

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Laneia is the Executive Editor and founding member of Autostraddle, and she thinks you're fucking rad. She's 36, has two kids, two dogs, one Megan, some personal essays and a lot of emails in her inbox. More at LaneiaJones.com.

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35 Comments

  1. My german friend spent a year living in Seattle a few years ago, and came back like ‘Guys. Americans actually use voicemail! Like regularly, and not only from businesses.’
    As a Brit I have only had approx three voicemails in the last ten years, either from potential employers or doctors surgeries. Presumably because it would be considered unprofessional to send a text.

  2. I feel like voicemails are still useful if you don’t know the person you’re calling. Like if I’ve got an unknown caller I might not bother to pick up because I’m in the middle of something, and I’m not gonna call them back asking “who is this and why did you try to contact me?” So they need to leave a message to say who they are.

    But if it’s someone in my contact’s list I never ever listen to their message, I’d much rather call them back as soon as I see the missed call.

  3. I love that you just casually dropped such a perfect story in the introduction. Also, Sunday nights – yes. From childhood days of family nights watching Wild Kingdom and the Disney Sunday Movie, to my current adult hibernating and cooking version – Sunday nights are the best.

  4. Voicemails and paper receipts both need to die an immediate death. My father used to be the only person to leave me voicemails, but last year he finally got a iPhone, thank god. Also, the voicemail-to-text feature of my phone is the best, I haven’t called my voicemail in probably 2 years. And I don’t have a landline at home, so literally the only time I use voiecmail is at the office.

  5. My voice mail isn’t set up because I hate phone calls.

    Getting a phone call is like having someone barge unto your room unannounced and uninvited. An INVASION OF PRIVACY.

    Getting a voice-mail is like if you locked the bedroom door, and the person who would have barged in just Stood There Until You Opened It while, like, mouth breathing.

    Phones are stressful, pls send texts and trust I will respond in 3-5 business days

  6. Also, I love when you open these articles with long introductions. Your brain is a gift to us all, Laneia.

    Oh, and I saw Deadpool on Friday afternoon and while I mostly enjoyed it, I had a few issues with it and it actually concerns two things that that article praised. So, minor spoiler warning, I guess, if you haven’t seen it yet. First, that sex-positive montage was mostly great, but the strap-on scene could have been so much better. Deadpool is getting pegged by his girlfriend and you can see discomfort on his face until finally he says, “Nope, nope.” And the audience laughs because they’re all dumb, uptight homophobes. Deadpool is supposedly a canonically pansexual character in the comics (although unfortunately I think it’s mostly played for laughs there, too). That scene would have been so much better and more progressive if he had started with some mild discomfort and then instead of a “nope”, we got a surprised, “Oh,” as Wade learns he likes anal sex.

    Secondly, Gina Carano’s character is also praised in the article for being big and fierce. It’s true, she is, and I love that about her. But both Deadpool and his girlfriend, the main characters, the ones we are supposed to care about, make jokes about how she probably has a dick. NOT COOL.

    So, yep, it was much better than it could have been in the hands of people who didn’t give a shit about the character, but it also wasn’t as good or progressive as it could have been.

    I don’t know if anyone here is even interested in the Deadpool movie, but I haven’t really had anyone to talk to about what was bugging me about the movie yet, and then along comes Laneia, bless her soul, giving me the perfect opportunity.

  7. Back in London, one winter’s night, I was on my way from the nearest bus stop to the house that was home then. The streets where covered in snow, I was cold from the wind and all warm from some cider. As I crossed the street towards our house, a red fox crossed in the opposite direction, some meters away. We looked at each other for some seconds, then the fox turned and disappeared around a corner. I hadn’t seen one before either. One lucky moment.

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