A+ Roundtable: Our First Time Watching Porn

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For better or for worse, porn was either accidentally or on purpose the first exposure so many of us had to how sex might work, especially sex between women. Even when it wasn't, it was an exposure to what sex was maybe possibly "supposed" to look like, and sometimes a confusing one! Here's all the good, bad and the ugly about our first time viewing porn. Remember VHS tapes? Were we ever so young?

Riese, Editor-in-Chief. 13 / a hotel in Michigan

In 8th grade, a girl I’ll call “Jessie” had her birthday party at the big hotel out by the highway, which was the first time I saw porn and the first time I saw two women kiss each other. Hotel parties were becoming a bit of a thing, then — the boys would come over in the evening for swimming and pizza, then they’d go home and the girls, usually six or eight of us, would spend the night. Jessie’s Mom was a little crazy and Jessie was a little weird, too, and I guess we all were but for some reason we’d decided Je...

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