Plus self-harm scars and dating, crushing hard on your married coworker, learning to celebrate yourself and more!

You don’t care if she graduated college or not, but either way she’s been lying about it to everyone! Plus advice on dealing with a couple’s fight when they’re also your roommates.

“In the summer of 2021, right after a trip to visit him and my mom, my dad called me. He sounded weird.”

We have 26 whole questions on all things gender! From parenting to transition to clothing to inclusion and exclusion in queer spaces, and more!

“I don’t know, y’all, being a parent is so scary, and sweet and weird and hilarious and exhausting and ugly and lonely and suffocating and perfect.”

How to cope when social commentary has your older girlfriend wondering if she’s a pervert for dating you. Plus, what if your brother’s line in the sand is not yours?

“Suddenly I was pregnant. And then I was a dropout. And then I was a single mother. I had no money or resources outside of my deeply evangelical family, the same people who’d taken me to picket outside of abortion clinics when I was six years old.”

You could graduate debt-free, or you could see what else is out there. Also, we help a nonbinary reader feel more supported in this binary world.

Your parents can help your girlfriend achieve some financial freedom, but she super doesn’t see it that way. Plus, a reader wonders if cis people can use “they/them”?

I’ve been thinking about it almost every day lately.

Your girlfriend just straight up voted for Trump, so now what?? Also, a reader feels conflicted about Trump voters throwing her baby shower.

Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it — and if there’s anything I can say about our little Prenatal Birth & Labor class, it is “there was a lot I did not know.”

When do you start telling people that you’re pregnant and how should you do it? Is pregnancy the great equalizer when it comes to the straight family gaze? Do unborn babies know when you are sad? Plus, Gretchen answers a reader question about how she came around to wanting to be a parent (it includes a Rock Bottom and the World’s Worst Dog)!

The AS team talks finding queer community with your lesbian sister, coping with a harmful mother-in-law, feeling ignored by your parents because you’re childless and more!

How to navigate dating apps when you have very limited sexual experience?! Also, a reader feels isolated after experiencing profound family loss.

Will your friend ever want to be something more? Can you be friends with your friend’s ex? The team answers these questions and more!

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

An international couple ponders a visa marriage before Trump takes office. Also a reader wonders if dietary restrictions can be a dealbreaker.

Members can submit dreams and tarot questions to be answered in this new weekly newsletter, COWBOY CLAIRVOYANT! Check out the first three dream interpretations!

I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but I dreamed that the New York Times put a paper grocery bag of 9 kittens on every doorstep to promote subscriptions.