Why are there so many TV shows about high school kids who don’t act like high school kids at all?

For the first themed A+ Advice Box in our new themed series, you asked questions about dating yourself after having a kid, dating your partner after lockdown, using dating apps when you are tired of screens in general, getting into casual dating, dating again after time periods ranging from 7 months to 4 years, whether love is a lie, and more!

The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!

Remember Tila Tequila?

“I don’t know who you are but I’ve never believed in anyone’s ability to reach peak mommi more than you”

Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??

Pandemic haircuts, changing your perception around friendships, do you want kids, do you need to know what you’re looking for when dating, feeling weird about not feeling New Relationship Energy, and more!

We answer questions from A+ members about disclosing PTSD while dating, coping with siblings who judge others for choosing to have children, healthy boundaries with partners, body acceptance and more!

“It’s adorable that you thought this book with this premise might have anyone who *isn’t* a lesbian in it!”

“to be extremely fair i’d let bette porter run me over with a honda”

“top 10 things you shouldn’t say to your girlfriend”

The one with the Anne of Green Gables fanfic in it.

“Little A+ box, I just wanted you to know that today I did my part in helping to burn the patriarchy to the ground.”

“It was like throwing a tennis ball at a wall and expecting it to bounce back but against all odds it gets stuck in the bricks.”

“I DID get hit on by a man at a lesbian bar on Saturday night. It made me feel very free and also like a pastry.”

Yvonne gets super-real about dealing with a very difficult situation, Aja talks toners, Cee takes a kitten on an airplane, and Laneia, Riese, Rachel and Heather say other things in response to things you said to us and well I don’t know I just think this is a really good one.

Here’s all the good, bad and the ugly about our first time viewing porn. Remember VHS tapes? Were we ever so young?

“I will probably be Connie Britton Editor from now on. Also heading up our Star Witness Akita division.”

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