Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?
“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that — but you might consider the possibility that there are more opportunities to do so than you think.”
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You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me
The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.
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You Need Help: I’m Uncertain About Wanting Kids, So Should I Only Date People Who Are Uncertain Too?
I’ve changed my mind about wanting kids throughout life, and that’s okay.
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You Need Help: All I Want Is a Relationship But I Can’t Make it Past the First Date
“How do I somehow give off that I’m girlfriend material? I just want to be wanted back for a change.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Hating My Face?
You do not need to change your face. But I do think you can start to change your thoughts.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want To Have Sex
To me, both of these things are true: 1. People’s sex drives can change for any number of reasons, at any time and 2. If sex is important to you, that’s valid, too!
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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
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How Do I Learn To Trust Again After My Two-Month Situationship Ended Abruptly?
“I’m a cis queer woman in my mid-twenties, and I’m mourning yet another 2-3 month-long relationship that ended unexpectedly, and this time it’s messing with me in the way the others haven’t.”
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You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept
“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”
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You Need Help: Wanting To Move In Together but Unsure About Sharing Bed With Dog
“My girlfriend has a super sweet lab mix who I love dearly, but I’m very new to the concept of sleeping with a dog in the bed. I thought they made dog beds for this exact reason?!”
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Struggles With Social Skills
Just because someone operates differently from you doesn’t mean they’re wrong, bad, or need help.
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After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement
“I feel like I’ve built a whole personality around accommodating her schedule: apologizing for her absences and filling in for what she doesn’t make time for (cooking, housework).”
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Is Literally a Vampire
The reason your girlfriend is behaving like this is because she’s literally a vampire. I would know, because I’m also a vampire.
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You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat?
You already did things right by talking about this before moving in together. Now it’s time to talk some more.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
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You Need Help: How Do I Date With Devastatingly Low Self-Esteem?
Approach cultivating a friendship with yourself as you would with other people.
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You Need Help: I’m Not Sure I Want To Be Friends With My Ex
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to lean into your gut feeling.
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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?
I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.
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You Need Help: My Sister Loves Me, the Sinner, but Hates the Sin
I’ve been willing to put this aside and accept the love she’s willing to give me. But it’s all come to a head now that my health insurance finally approved my top surgery.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.