Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: My Sister Loves Me, the Sinner, but Hates the Sin
I’ve been willing to put this aside and accept the love she’s willing to give me. But it’s all come to a head now that my health insurance finally approved my top surgery.
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You Need Help: How to Feel Good About Getting Older
You already escaped the lies of the patriarchy. Now — now! — you get to live.
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You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become Less Afraid of New Year’s and the Expectations it Brings?
This time of year inherently brings stress, so please treat yourself with kindness.
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You Need Help: How Do I Deal With the Inescapable Sexism in My Industry?
Ultimately, your question is about how to find hope in the midst of the inescapable bigotry that defines the working world.
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You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare
I am sending you and your person all my love and wishes for competent and compassionate medical care, swift healing, and fruitful conversations in the future about your growing relationship.
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You Need Help: Trying To Live Through the Pandemic Is Destroying My Mental Health
I want you to hold this: Even though the world is kind of terrible, your life is precious and valuable, and you are loved.
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You Need Help: I Keep Getting Yeast Infections When I Receive Oral Sex
I’m obsessive about the way I treat my vagina. Is this kind of annoying? Honestly, yes. Is it more annoying to get a yeast infection? Also yes.
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You Need Help: My Parents Want Me to Respect My Sister’s Homophobic Religious Beliefs
How do I get my parents to see that neutrality in this situation feels like they’re rejecting me too?
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Through Living With My Homophobic Parents?
You do not need to feel guilty about the ways you’re hurting.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
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You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: How Do I Come Out as Trans at Work?
Here are some tips to come out at work as safely as possible, and it requires a little bit of preparation in and out of the office.
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There’s No Right (or Wrong) Way to Go Home for the Holidays
No matter what happens, this is a firm truth: You deserve to be seen, affirmed, and loved for exactly who you are.
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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You Need Help: How to Be More Assertive (or, When to Clap Back at Men)
It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.
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You Need Help: Your Christian Family Loves Trump’s Debauchery, Hates Your Gayness
Jesus doesn’t have anything to say about gay people, but he has PLENTY to say about the kinds of religious leaders who support a man like Donald Trump.
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You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary at Work
Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.
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You Need Help: Your Therapist Is Clueless About Disability
Yes, helpful therapists exist! Yes, they are worth it! And yes, they are very hard to find! Stay with me.