Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Bisexual or a Lesbian and Find Community?
There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be different things, all of which can also change! Yet we’re expected to align under a single label.
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You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t
Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.
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You Need Help: Why Am I So Tempted to Cheat?
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.
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You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
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You Need Help: Am I Bisexual If It Really Is Just This One Guy?
“I’ve identified as a lesbian for three years now, and this identity makes me happy. But… I made out with one of my closest male friends whilst drunk, and then again whilst sober, and we’ve talked about it and decided to pursue a friends with benefits situation. So now I feel guilty, but I feel silly calling myself or thinking about “coming out again” as bi because it really is just this one guy; I’m not into “men,” I’m into women (and some NB people) and him, and that’s it. Am I betraying everyone?”
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You Need Help: Three Classic Bisexual Questions, Now with Bisexual Answers
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
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Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
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You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
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Y’All Need Help #6: You Can Still Trust Yourself
Realizing you’re bisexual after you’re married to a dude, coming to terms with this awful therapist, and never ever ever U-Hauling again. It’s time for some good old fashioned advice!
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You Need Help: Do I Really Have to Go to My Biphobic Brother-in-Law’s Wedding?
When an in-law has a terrible reaction to your coming out, do you still have to go to their wedding?
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You Need Help: My Mom Supports My Bisexuality, but Not My Butchness
Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!
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You Need Help: You’re Bisexual and Your Girlfriend Wishes You Weren’t
“Am I in denial? Should I view this as a total dealbreaker? What is a girl to do?”
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Y’All Need Help: Quick and Unprofessional Advice for Queers Who Need It
Quick and loving advice for three queers who need our help! A home wrecker (but not really) in a sticky situation, a bisexual who’s feeling torn, and a closeted queer in the South who’s staying that way. Get in here!
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You Need Help: What’s My Label?
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”
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You Need Help: 7 Highly Effective Habits of Dealing with Biphobes
Just kidding it’s not quite 7. They’re still good ones though.
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You Need Help: Do I Call Myself Bisexual?
“I’m attracted to more than one gender, but am not sure what label to use. “Queer” resonates with me, but am I contributing to bisexual erasure if I don’t ID as bisexual?”
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You Need Help: Attraction to Women and Feeling Like A “Bad Muslim”
“Remember that everyone around you, Muslim and non-Muslim alike, is grappling with a lot of the same things that you are right now: about what they want “family” to look like and mean to them, about sex and sexuality and learning to live in their bodies, about how to hold onto faith when it can feel like there’s not much going for it.”
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
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You Need Help: You Fell In Love With A Girl and It’s Exploding Your Whole Life
So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?
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You Need Help: You Like Her But She Keeps Bringing Up Boys
Your focus shouldn’t be ‘Is she straight or gay?’. Wondering about that leads to madness, drunk phone calls and other forms of hot messery.