For a lot of trans women, going to the pool or the beach can be one of the most stressful things about post-coming-out life. You’re more exposed than usual, swim suits aren’t normally designed for girls with bodies like ours, and there are usually lots of people there. But don’t worry!

Inconvenient truth: it’s about to get a whole lot colder. What this means is that you’ve got to get yourself a coat and start looking up candy-cane vodka drinks and figuring out whether or not you should ask that cute girl to go ice skating.