Results for: non-binary
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Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
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You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn
Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?
This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.
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16 Ways to Grow Closer to Your Boo Without Actually Moving in Together
“Whatever, it’s fine. Give them your kidney. Then take one of their kidneys. It’s a kidney swap.”
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11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
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Your Girlfriend’s Family Is Racist and You Should Probably Get the Hell Out of There
“How much do I need to engage with my serious girlfriend’s racist immediate family members? She is close with them, and I’ve spent time with them in the past, but put simply I no longer have the energy or inclination to do so, even though I love my gf.”
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Six Queers on Polyamory and Identity
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
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A+ Roundtable: What’s Your Relationship Kryptonite?
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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Poly Pocket: When Family and Friends Just Don’t Get It
“Family and friends tend to recognize her and her boyfriend and pretend that I don’t exist, mostly because they have been together longer and queer relationships are not respected or recognized.”
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Poly Pocket: Dreaming of a World With Less Fear, More Vulnerability As A Black Trans Queer Person
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
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Poly Pocket: If You Don’t Take Care Of Yourself, It Just Doesn’t Work
“I have a relationship to myself first. If that relationship isn’t solid and healthy I’m not good with anyone.”
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Unofficially Official: There’s More Than One Way to Have a Lesbian Relationship
So, casual dating is dead, and I’m on a mission to bring it back with this handy guide to classifying what the hell is going on with you and that girl.
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Why We Have an Open Relationship: A Dialogue on Queer Polyamory for Lesbians
Do you have a girlfriend? That’s fine. I also have a girlfriend. But I think you’re cute, and you think I’m cute, and let’s not waste all this cuteness and attraction just because we both have girlfriends. I’m sorry, did that come off a little harsh? It wasn’t supposed to. It’s just what a conversation might sound like in a world where monogamy wasn’t the norm. Contrary to popular belief, monogamy and fidelity are not one in the same. Take it from two lesbians – real lesbians – who have both been in serious relationships, both open and exclusive, and are still trying to figure out what exactly that means.