Results for: be the change
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No Matter How Much Changes, These Diners Stay The Same
If Staten Island has anything, it’s an abundance of delicious diners, and so many have left their mark on my heart.
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“Middlesex” Has a Complicated Legacy — 20 Years Ago, It Changed My Life
When I read Middlesex, I felt that tinge of recognition I think a lot of queer and trans people look for when they realize something is different about themselves.
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Change Is Magic: On Cooking and Bodies
Science fiction taught me that any sufficiently advanced science is indistinguishable from magic. In the kitchen, my girlfriend is a witch.
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Everything Is Subject to Change…
I idolized Shane, and the only trans man in the series, Max. I wanted to mirror their everyday existence. I wanted to emulate their cool. I wanted the attraction they seemed to be dripped in. I wanted the clothes they wore, I wanted my jeans to have a hole in the crotch like theirs did.
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“Transparent” Changed Me (And TV) Forever
“Do you have something to tell us?” my mom joked. It was a joke, because of course I didn’t. “No,” I said with a laugh. And I thought I was telling the truth.
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For Your Consideration: Changing Associations After a Breakup
For when wiping the slate completely clean isn’t really an option.
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Hot Cheetos: A Chorus
Even years after we graduated high school or left our hometown or eschewed processed snack foods, we couldn’t deny the evidence of our former appetites, each of our fingers a flapping red flag.
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Finding and Losing My Worth as a Trans Woman
Something had to change, because I’d never be free, be myself, if I kept it up. I decided to take the biggest risk yet, and started transitioning again.
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For My 30th Birthday, I Moved Back to New York
Essays about turning 30 are almost as annoying as essays about moving to or from New York.
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A Transmasc’s Guide to Developing a Healthier Masculine Sexuality
There are some lessons we don’t have to learn the hard way when people have already done the work to teach us.
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Wild Cravings: Nothing Tastes The Same
The Leo’s group changes from visit to visit. It all depends who’s up in time, who’s ready to go, who’s the right amount of hungover (hungover enough to crave greasy, salty food but not so hungover as to not be able to handle fluorescent light).
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Uncertainty and Disquiet: My Non-Consensual Childhood Circumcision as a Trans Woman
At the time, I didn’t know that I was experiencing a contentious procedure that would leave me physically scarred and emotionally wounded. I did it because I was told I should. Decades later, I learned about assent in a postgraduate research course.
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This One Time At Queer Writing Camp: All About the 2013 Lambda Literary Retreat
What I learned from a week on a hilltop with 50 queer writers.
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The Big And
If time is blurry, and I think it is, then so is everything else.
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To Be Trans Is To Refuse Borders
In 2022, I brought my girlfriend daddy to my homeland.
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10 Mountain Goats Songs, Ranked by Transness
I’m not alone in my obsession with finding themes of gender oppression and transformation in their raw, high-wire, indie-rock lyrics about tragedy, monstrosity, drugs, and sickness.
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Here’s Why You Should Get a Nude Portrait of Yourself Done
We deserve to feel like art, to feel wonderfully made.
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Untethered: I Can Still Hear My Ex Mother-in-Law’s Voice
Last night, while out with a date, my voice pitched too high. I winced internally. There are a lot of complications around this for me.
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Where Are All the Scream Kings?
When I was in fourth grade, I got in trouble for discussing how fast my body would decompose if I was stabbed.
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Do You Have Fire?
While the rest of my family stayed buried in the grief of continuing to live in the physical home where my brother had just died, I got to fly away. Run to the wild gardens of Berlin. Wear men’s clothes as if they were the only pieces of clothing I ever owned.