So you want to break up? Don’t be mean. Be honest.
“…there’s a value in extending the period of time in which the way you build a life together is directed only by what’s in your heart and guts and brain, not by leases and legal documents and bill payments and shared sofas.”
A 28 year-old closeted lesbian and married mother of three, and a token gay friend who’s feeling quite encroached upon. Calling it like I see it!
“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing with her or anything.”
What do you do when your girlfriend has a small vaginal opening and wants to have penetrative sex?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
So you were dumped because…you’re not a vegan?
“Am I in denial? Should I view this as a total dealbreaker? What is a girl to do?”
“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”
“I was bred as a Southern Baptist, which gave me plenty of reasons not to let a guy touch my boobs. For example, it would break Jesus’ heart. And also I would go to hell.”
Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.
“How do I own up to this as if it’s the most normal thing for me to have done?” Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.
“I now have a million conspiracy theories in my head about the possibility that maybe the girl I met in person was not the same girl writing me these emails.”
I think she’s being the most supportive—and she’s exactly what you want in a best friend, because she’s in your corner and she’s supporting you as a whole person. She’s giving you some solid advice here—this is a bad idea. It is. Darling, this is a terrible idea.
What years of telling strangers what to do about their problems has taught me about dealing with my own.
I’ve been on both sides of the hiring table. I’ve been the one applying for a job and the one interviewing job applicants. Here’s what I’ve learned.
So you’re gay and you’re getting married and, oh yeah, you’ve never come out to your grandmother. Do you invite her? How?
“So I’ve met someone new. And I’m wondering about my toys. I’ve heard it’s taboo to use the same toys on a new partner.”
Need help flirting “in a way that’s subtle enough to fly over a straight girl’s head, but be picked up on by LBPQ woman?” Read on!
Like, I think about buying a coffee and then am like “no no self, you can’t do that – you would need to speak to a person.”