I started the 31st week of my pregnancy crying over the kitchen sink as I crammed my gestational diabetes breakfast into my mouth. It wasn’t the pregnancy hormones this time. It was the overwhelming grief and the sudden realization of what it means to be a parent.
Being an adoptee has made being pregnant all that much more strange and interesting.
“Instead, I jump back into the mind of the girlish woman I was at 28, the one who didn’t know enough about the consequences for unacceptable motherhood to plunge headfirst into the fire. It has taken me much longer than my mother to see the gift of my own naiveté.”
Lindsay Amer is the cool Queer Big Sister you wish you had when you were a wee tot and she’s changing the landscape of kid-friendly content for ages 3-7.
“I’m going to be a single, poor, gay, mom, and it’s going to be fine. It’s going to be amazing. I mean sure, I might date sometimes, but I don’t need a partner. Partners just get in the way. And what are the odds that I would meet a woman I would want to be with who would also want to have children with me? I can’t even picture it!”
“Sometimes I turn to Waffle and randomly exclaim, ‘This is happening!’ I should probably stop doing that as we get closer to, like, the possibility of me going into actual labor.”
There is no chance I’m going to evade the Cult of Mommy-ness. My undercut can’t save me.
Even more proof that same-sex parents raise kids with good outcomes, a bathroom bill supporter in TN who’s a rampant sexual harasser, new data on police violence and more.
A mom fights for visitation rights with her kids in Alabama, slurs yelled against protester at a Donald Trump rally, 195 countries have agreed on a new environmental policy, Daniel Holtzclaws’ conviction, and more.
Our panel answers your questions about getting knocked up, adopting, the challenges and rewards of queer mom life, and so much more!
A Utah judge takes a child away from her foster parents because they’re lesbians, Texas daycare workers sue over respecting a trans child’s gender, threats and backlash at Mizzou, and more.
“Suddenly I was looking at all these little boxes online, little question marks where the faces would be, each one representing another human that shared half of my daughter’s DNA.”
Britney Spears is thinking of the queer children, two trans activists in Ecuador are expecting, Bo Obama just turned 7, a bunch of high schoolers f*cking hate the Westboro Baptist Church, and I put a photo in here of Kate McKinnon dressed as Dana Scully in middle school. AND MORE!
A train for stray dogs, lots of good news for the queer kids and parents of the world, a formal victory for Caitlyn Jenner, and more!
The best mom to a trans daughter ever, sweet justice in Kentucky, baby goats, a landmark court ruling for a Mexican trans woman, and more!
Questions I never thought I’d have to consider, but here we are. Get an exclusive peek into my over-processing journey towards queer parenthood.
“In one of my college psych courses we had to try to use conditioning to get rid of bad habits. My classmates tried to stop biting their nails. I tried to stop panicking during sex.”
How I prepare my home and myself for the experience of birth and new parenthood, with as few products as possible.
“I kept having this ridiculous vision of, say, five years down the line being at a filmmaker meet up, looking across the room and recognizing my child in a stranger’s face, being like holy shit, I think that’s our donor. It’s a little absurd, I know, but San Francisco is a pretty small town!”
“If we think too hard, we’ll never do it,” Kellie said. She was right. A cost-benefit analysis would yield no practical reason to grow our family. The only reason to make a new baby was that we felt like it, and we could.