So you’ve recently come out to your family, and it’s the first time you’ve been to holigay dinner since it happened. Autostraddle is here to help you through it.
“She told me she’d been raped… She’s feeling embarrassed and ashamed and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do… and everything seems a mess.”
Shocker: not everyone loves traditional family gatherings. You wanted a tarot spread which would help you navigate Thanksgiving, so here’s one to look at the energies around your dinner table and deal with whatever is getting you down.
Come out, come out, wherever you are! The Autostraddle team gives you tips on how to come out to your friends.
It’s getting colder and colder by the day, and I cannot help but remember how helplessly sad I was last time around. This time, I’m gonna try to nip it in the bud. Here are some ways to stave off your cold weather blues.
“Remember that everyone around you, Muslim and non-Muslim alike, is grappling with a lot of the same things that you are right now: about what they want “family” to look like and mean to them, about sex and sexuality and learning to live in their bodies, about how to hold onto faith when it can feel like there’s not much going for it.”
“I’m attracted to more than one gender, but am not sure what label to use. “Queer” resonates with me, but am I contributing to bisexual erasure if I don’t ID as bisexual?”
“My writing lets me vent everything I have pent up and my poems allow people to comprehend what I’m thinking. But when words are meant to come from my mouth, they’re all zig zagging in my head, I tend to over-think on what to say.”
Let’s all sum ourselves up as cards from the tarot and find out what that says about us.
We’re all striving for something — and that’s actually totally okay.
Picking your own personal style can be hard enough when you’ve got years of practice, so what’s a woman supposed to do when she’s jumping right in?
“I guess I’m still sort of coming out. I’m learning to embrace my sexuality as a primary part of my identity rather than an afterthought. It feels really good.”
“I cried on the plane. I realized, stark as night, clear as day, that the silence was killing me. Instead of moving through a moment, I was trapped inside of purgatory.”
“It’s important to remember that nothing you did caused your harassment. You are worthy of walking around in a world that loves and appreciates you in ways you want to be loved and appreciated.”
I’m gonna take a punt before I’ve even shuffled my cards and tell you that no – you’re not unlovable. No way. I think we can all agree, I don’t need a deck of cards to tell you that. You are 100% lovable, just like ALL Autostraddle readers.
Doing your hair yourself is fun, much cheaper than going to the salon, and probably only moderately hazardous to your health.
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
So your dream is to compete in the Miss America pageant but you’re afraid your state isn’t ready for a “gay celebrity” to represent them. Former Miss Kentucky has all the answers.
One way to develop your understanding of the tarot is to look at how the four elements — earth, air, fire and water — play out in the cards.
A reader asks what to do next now that coming out as trans has gone poorly with their family.