Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird
Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.
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You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me
“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem. It is awkward!”
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You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
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You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?
I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.
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You Need Help: Taking the Leap to Study Abroad
“Moving to Portland would be a dream come true, but I’m scared about being away from my support network, and finding people to live with who I can trust. Should I go?”
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You Need Help: How to Be More Assertive (or, When to Clap Back at Men)
It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.
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You Need Help: Your Christian Family Loves Trump’s Debauchery, Hates Your Gayness
Jesus doesn’t have anything to say about gay people, but he has PLENTY to say about the kinds of religious leaders who support a man like Donald Trump.
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You Need Help: What Should You Do With Your One Wild and Precious Life?
Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.
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You Need Help: My Mom Supports My Bisexuality, but Not My Butchness
Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!
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You Need Help: Emerging From Your Hermitage
Like, I think about buying a coffee and then am like “no no self, you can’t do that – you would need to speak to a person.”
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You Need Help Helping Your Parents: Cis People Teaching Cis Parents To Be Trans Allies
It will take time. It will take a lot of patience. It will be worth it.
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You Need Help: 7 Highly Effective Habits of Dealing with Biphobes
Just kidding it’s not quite 7. They’re still good ones though.
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You Need Help: Coming Out In Your Mid/Late 20s
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
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You Need Help: Attraction to Women and Feeling Like A “Bad Muslim”
“Remember that everyone around you, Muslim and non-Muslim alike, is grappling with a lot of the same things that you are right now: about what they want “family” to look like and mean to them, about sex and sexuality and learning to live in their bodies, about how to hold onto faith when it can feel like there’s not much going for it.”
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You Need Help: You Just Graduated From College and Everything Is Awful
Moving back in with your parents after college because you’re unemployed can feel like the end of the world, but is probably not actually the end of the world.
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You Need Help: Lesbian Back-To-School Edition
So you’re going to your first semester at college! Do you have to come out to your roommate?