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You Need Help: I’m Disabled — Will I Ever Find Love?
Disabled and chronically ill people are powerful and sexy and worthy of love, and that means you’re all of those things, too.
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15 Tips for Creating Accessible Gatherings and Anti-Ableist Spaces
I want to live in a world where disabled people get to feel seen, validated, and valued as a whole person at all sorts of events. That will not happen unless abled people make the effort to learn, proactively plan, and communicate about accessibility.
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How to Shop for Accessible Sex Toys When You Live With Chronic Pain
Living with chronic pain has taught me how to help myself and others achieve pleasure using accessible sex toys.
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Endometriosis No Longer Keeps Me From My Best Queer Sex
For the first time I was able to experience, without pain, the feeling of having my partner’s fingers inside of me and we found a new level of intimacy and excitement… How did I spend an entire decade of my life letting the medical system tell me that constant pelvic pain was acceptable?
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How to Finger Your Partner When You Have Chronic Pain in Your Hands
A few minor adjustments can make fingering easier, even when chronic pain is cramping your style.
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Not Grateful Enough
“Thank you for pushing me down a ramp so quickly that I slammed into a wall.”
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You Need Help: Relearning Sex with Chronic Pain
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
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The Soft Butch That Couldn’t (Or: I Got COVID-19 in March 2020 and Never Got Better)
Is a soft butch a soft butch if she can barely hold even herself together? Is a soft butch a soft butch without her swagger?
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Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha’s “The Future Is Disabled” Should Be Required Reading
After reading The Future is Disabled, I feel more hopeful, and I think you will, too.
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12 Books to Read to Be a Better Ally to Disabled People This Disability Pride Month
This list will make you laugh out loud, bring you to tears, make you question things you believed to be true, and even make you want to blast Demi Lovato.
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You Need Help: Your Therapist Is Clueless About Disability
Yes, helpful therapists exist! Yes, they are worth it! And yes, they are very hard to find! Stay with me.
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10 Ways to Keep Your Disabled / Chronically Ill Friends Safer This Pride
We clown on the commodification of Pride, but what good is that if we continue to perpetuate all the ableism intrinsic in capitalism in our own spaces?
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I Have To Choose Between Being Disabled and Queer
In queer spaces, I cannot be disabled. In disability spaces, people ask if my spouse is my sister. I hope that someday I don’t have to choose.
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Keah Brown on Her New Picture Book and the Importance of Disability Representation for Children
“I was excited to talk about rest for children, to talk about how even rest can be an adventure.”
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What Long COVID Taught Me About Mutual Aid
The same things I need in order to manage my Long COVID are the things we all need for the future we are creating: mutual aid, seasons of receiving along with our seasons of giving, self-care that is directly connected to community care, less work, body trust and disability justice.
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You Need Help: How to Navigate Disabled Kids Coming Out
“That she talked to you about this at all is a beautiful and important thing that a lot of young people don’t have. So know that just being there for her is already making an enormous difference!”
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Why Discovering Your Trans Identity As A Disabled Person Can Be So Confusing
Society painted me as a burden, and undeserving of autonomy. I have taken that paintbrush and created a beautiful life where being disabled isn’t a bad thing.
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Asshole, Autistic and Other A-Words of My Love Life
Something was deeply wrong with me, something shameful. Turns out, the truth is more complicated.
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It Should Always Include Lube: Talking with A. Andrews About “A Quick and Easy Guide to Sex & Disability”
A. Andrews’ comic A Quick and Easy Guide to Sex and Disability is a well-written, thoughtful, and enjoyable guide that I strongly recommend to all disabled and able-bodied people alike
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Future Present: Talking with Johanna Hedva About the Luxury of Our Needs
Why do we talk about care as a scarcity model? How do you live with ~the void~? How do we adjust to changing language for identity and in movements? Is America going to end in 2024? All this and more!