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Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage
Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.
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View From The Top: The Thing About Sadism
I want to break things — holes, walls, people. I want to feel the begging in my pelvis and let it ignite the fire under me to burn bright up my spine and light up all my colors.
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Bottoms Up: About Last Night
“I guess I had a lot of opinions that night because you told me that I was especially chatty. I told you it was because you weren’t giving me anything to keep my mouth busy.”
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View From The Top: Tender-Hearted Dom
When you want your partner to be strong, dominant, demanding and strict, “What do you need right now? Can I make you a sandwich? Let’s watch your favorite movie!” is not a sexy reaction.
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View From The Top: Tops Have Limits, Too
“I knew she wanted it, I trusted her to know she could take what she asked for, and I wanted to give her what she wanted. But I couldn’t do it.”
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Bottoms Up: Did My Feminist Ancestors Burn Their Bras For This?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
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Bottoms Up: What Limits?
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?
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Bottoms Up: Sad, Solo, Submissive
Be the daddy you want to see in the world.
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Bottoms Up: Sex and the Single Sub
I had to be comfortable enough to say, “I like this, but not that” to someone I’d just met, because if I couldn’t, I might get my clit bit again.
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Bottoms Up: Little Boi
Being in little space doesn’t feel like being a child again. It feels more freeing than my childhood ever was, and like something completely different.
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View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
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Bottoms Up: My Time In The Dungeon
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
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Bottoms Up: I Am My Best Sex
Being single, solo submission, masturbation, and how you can be your own best and favorite top.
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Bottoms Up: She Wants Me To Send Nudes But I Think She’s a Fuckboi
Nude selfies are how I first learned to see myself as a sexual being, and now they also let me determine how others see me — especially within kinky power dynamic relationships.
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View From The Top: How Topping Taught Me Physics And Feminism
Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.
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View From The Top: The First Time I Knew I Was a Top
The first time I knew I was a top was when a girl I was dating said, “Please, hit me harder,” and then, later, whispered, “I can take more than you can give me.”
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Autostraddle’s Masters Of Sex Cure Month Experience Week 4: Your Action Plan To Get Lots Of Action
The final week! Time to put all the pieces together.
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Introducing Autostraddle’s Masters Of Sex Cure Month Experience
Because sometimes the revolution is in your pants.
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Autostraddle’s Masters Of Sex Cure Month Experience Week 3: Get Naked and Ask Questions
Getting naked at home alone, taking a field trip, spontaneous sex, doing some research and more.