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You Need Help: Getting Kinky On A Budget
You’re in luck — kinky sex requires nothing but two (or more) bodies and a little imagination.
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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community
In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.
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You Need Help: What To Wear To A Kink Party
What to wear when you don’t want to channel Leather Mommi Barbie.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish
I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly made sense to me.
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I Have IBS and I Still Want You to Eat My Ass
“Do you think he’ll notice if I just never come out of the bathroom?”
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10 Things I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Going to Play Parties
A play party is just like any other party — if it’s a good party, it’s probably a loud party, and if it’s a great party, it ends in an orgasm.
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How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
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Impact Play 101: How to Successfully Spank and Slap With Your Very Own Hands
Your hands are your first and best sex toy, and one thing you can do with them is spank people! Hot. Let’s talk about how you can do that in a safe and sexy way!
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Queer Women and Leather: A Culture Clash That Has Nothing to Do With Veganism
An understanding of the leather community can help us co-exist, share spaces and celebrate all of the different ways to live queer lives.
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How to Soundproof for Kinky Sex
If you want to make your sex or kink life a little quieter and a little more soundproof, here’s what you can try on your own.
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Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage
Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.
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View From The Top: The Thing About Sadism
I want to break things — holes, walls, people. I want to feel the begging in my pelvis and let it ignite the fire under me to burn bright up my spine and light up all my colors.
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Bottoms Up: About Last Night
“I guess I had a lot of opinions that night because you told me that I was especially chatty. I told you it was because you weren’t giving me anything to keep my mouth busy.”
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View From The Top: Palette of Permission
In the beginning checking in all the time was useful. But after six months of it, Sarah was getting annoyed.
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View From The Top: Tender-Hearted Dom
When you want your partner to be strong, dominant, demanding and strict, “What do you need right now? Can I make you a sandwich? Let’s watch your favorite movie!” is not a sexy reaction.
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View From The Top: Tops Have Limits, Too
“I knew she wanted it, I trusted her to know she could take what she asked for, and I wanted to give her what she wanted. But I couldn’t do it.”
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Bottoms Up: Did My Feminist Ancestors Burn Their Bras For This?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
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Bottoms Up: What Limits?
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?