As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
As I grow more into the submissive I want to be, I grow to love myself more.
“Holistic masochism recognizes that I’m not just a sex machine, but a whole person who has to exist before and after play.”
“When I’m alone, and the world feels like it’s ending, for whom do I do service?”
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
Be the daddy you want to see in the world.
The more I experience subspace, the more I think that mindful living is possible for me.
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
Being in little space doesn’t feel like being a child again. It feels more freeing than my childhood ever was, and like something completely different.
Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.
I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.
Being single, solo submission, masturbation, and how you can be your own best and favorite top.
I got my first STI as a newly single sub with no idea how to practice kinky safer sex. Turns out safer sex is everyone’s responsibility.
Nude selfies are how I first learned to see myself as a sexual being, and now they also let me determine how others see me — especially within kinky power dynamic relationships.
I had to be comfortable enough to say, “I like this, but not that” to someone I’d just met, because if I couldn’t, I might get my clit bit again.
“I’ve gotten so good at telling people what I like and what I want that I’ve been accused of topping from the bottom, but telling people what I don’t like is completely different territory.”