Plus updates on the latest episode of American Horror Stories, The Republic of Sarah, the second season finale of Betty, and it’s Halloween on Motherland: Fort Salem.

Is it a date or are we just friends? Why not both! This week we’re talking about fucking your friends with Autostraddle Community Editor and fucking your friends expert Vanessa Friedman.

What do you do with your facial hair, how do you make friends in your 30’s, where is your motivation these days, how do you cope with your wife breaking things off, with an unhealthy friendship, with changes in your sexuality? The team answers these questions and so many more!

Supporting a partner with an HIV diagnosis, dating anxiety, dressing while pregnant, and more!

If you thought 2021 was a banner year for LGBTQ+ books, wait until you see what the first three months of 2022 have in store for queer book lovers.

“As a thick butch, I love this thick butch content!”

Bennett raised their eyebrows, trying not to blush. They wanted it, they really, really wanted it. They’d made themself a promise because they didn’t want to get involved with someone who wasn’t right. But this was different.

“Legally when two people are this hot and chaotic, they have to kiss.”

Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s become an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.

Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.

You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.

Sex therapy is one of those things that sounds simple on the surface, but is really much more widely encompassing that one might originally suspect.

Special? Of course she was special. She was their partner, their most precious relationship, their lover of nearly ten years, their most trusted confidant. She smelled like a combination of lavender and musk, with this particular tenderness that still made Bennett’s knees weak and that growl start to build deep in their body.

You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.

What to do when you’re too sore from a spanking to sit, being solo poly in quarantine, whether or not coconut oil can cure yeast infections and more.

Dating is hard when you’re too thirsty. Plus, pandemic non-monogamy, relationship imposter syndrome, and more.

“This was after that night, when I moved into the guest room with the little bathroom, when I moved my toiletries onto the shower floor, when I moved all the books I was reading, and my perfume bottles, my department-store boxes filled with eyeliner and lipstick. And I texted my spouse that we were separating and that I had moved into the guest room, and they called me and wanted to come back to the house and I said, ‘No, no, don’t, I don’t want you to,’ and then sat on the front porch smoking, waiting, as I had set the stage for another cinematic moment to happen. And my spouse did not come home.”

Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

The team responds to questions about seeking ADHD diagnosis, routines and self-care, getting the most out of therapy, being the emotional support friend but never the emotional support recipient, and more!

The TV Team weighs in on all our feelings about Sex and the City reboot And Just Like That’s first season: the good, the bad and the Che Diaz.