Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: I Feel Left Out By My New Friends
Don’t be afraid to say what you want — meaningful, ongoing friendship. There are people out there who are looking for the same thing.
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You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t
Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Through Living With My Homophobic Parents?
You do not need to feel guilty about the ways you’re hurting.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird
Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
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You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me
“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem. It is awkward!”
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.
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You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
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You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
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You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up
Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.
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You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?
Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.
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Into the A+ Advice Box: Quarantine Special Edition
Help! Your girlfriend is quarantined three hours away, your roommate’s partner moved into the apartment during the shut down without your consent, dying your hair before that next work Zoom call, handling an overwhelming group chat, and what to do when you are so alone!
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You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: Why Can’t I Break Up With Them?
You owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest.
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You Need Help: How Do I Come Out as Trans at Work?
Here are some tips to come out at work as safely as possible, and it requires a little bit of preparation in and out of the office.
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You Need Help: How Do I Spice Up My Relationship?
So you’re not looking for anything new… but something has got to change for you to feel more fulfilled in this relationship.
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.